Thanks for ALL the lovely comments about this everyone. Sorry for the slow reply, busy with real life! What a shame this is, it seems like they are taking the lazy, easy way out and closing down what can be a wonderful, positive, and sexy community. However, as far as I can see it’s not…
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If I could follow one blog on tumblr yours would be it. If I would let one faceless and fictionalized blog-mistress cage me it would be you. Practical, smart, sexy, mean and sweet! Please keep at it. Who knows maybe you’ll become famous and your ideas will seep indirectly into my wife’s world….In the meantime I’ll check you first. D
Well thank you, I think. I’m not sure what a fictionalised blog mistress means but I’ll take it as a compliment… The idea of the stuff I’m writing at the moment is to give something really low key that you could maybe try to introduce to your wife I hope. It seems like that’s one…
Will you be doing NO-vember challenges as well?
No I’m going to focus on getting the resources I talked about finished this month.
Jane, A month of great reads. #31 is delicious. Thx, D
You’re so welcome! The feedback’s really appreciated. J xxx
Huge fan! Definitely got us into enjoying October in a different way. Just wondering what you guys do on period week?
Thanks so much! Well, originally when I was the one being denied, hubby used it as an excuse to go ‘anal only’ which drove me crazy and… yeah I kind of loved – trust me I was as surprised as anyone. Nowadays when it’s me getting the lion’s share of the orgasms I tend to use…
Hi Jane, love the blog, but wanted your advice. Last year my husband and I had such fun with Locktober but this year he’s been very busy with work and it just hasn’t happened to my disappointment. I feel a bit down about it, which is such a contrast to before. What do you think I should do? T xx
Hi T, thanks for the message. Look, I don’t want to be rude, but this isn’t brain science (or maybe it is, it works so well!). You have everything you need to fix this. It’d be lovely if it all came from him and none of it fell on us, but honestly, when has that…
Dear Jane, What a great blog you have created, describing and illustrating sweet denial with a loving edge and creating a magical image of yourself. Your modest statement “So, while I sadly don’t look like that any more” stands in contrast to the fact that in my eyes and those of many male readers, fantasizing about your unheard voice, unseen eyes and unfelt touch, being teased and denied by your words and your distance, you’ll always look “like that” or better. Your man is lucky indeed. Thx, D
Thank you very much D, that’s very sweet of you! Jane xxx
Hi Jane I thought you might be interested. My husband was unfaithful to me a couple of years ago which all came out and was very painful but we got through it. However I’d seen a show called Californication where the wife put her husband in a cock cage which led me to research them, and find your blog. Long story short he agreed to be caged to give me reassurance it couldn’t happen again, but the main impact was it totally revitalised our sex life. He’d never gone down on me before, but does all
… the time now. We talk about sex very openly now, his libido is focused on me and it’s wonderful. As much as I wish it hadn’t happened in some ways I’m glad because things are so much better now. For our 20th wedding anniversay this year, he got his cock pierced (my idea) and…
Where did you find the first image of your header? I’ve been looking for the second and fourth cage models for months! Great blog btw
Thanks! They’re all available from Lovehoney – the second one is just the standard sized CB-6000 model and the last one is called The Curve I think, it’s for biiiig cocks as far as I can see. Lovehoney Cock Cages While you can get these cheaper as chinese knock offs we do highly recommend Lovehoney…

Hey Jane! I love your blog – my bf and I have been playing for only a few weeks, but it’s been good so far and your blog has given me helpful advice, so thanks! :) One issue I have is that his padlock always pokes me in uncomfortable ways when I’m cuddling with him, I think it’s because the corners are really sharp. Do you have advice or tips? My email address is mshieldsnyc [at] gmail btw, since I don’t have a tumblr account myself. Anyways, thanks for your blog – both of us enjoy reading it!
Hiya, yeah we have stopped using ones with padlocks on for that reason and because they clonk around when he moves lol. Most of the new metal ones from places like Toys4NaughtyBoys or shops like this on Amazon come with very neat little locks built in, which is far more convenient, even if it does hold quite…