Hi Jane, love the blog, but wanted your advice. Last year my husband and I had such fun with Locktober but this year he’s been very busy with work and it just hasn’t happened to my disappointment. I feel a bit down about it, which is such a contrast to before. What do you think I should do? T xx

Hi T, thanks for the message.

Look, I don’t want to be rude, but this isn’t brain science (or maybe it is, it works so well!). You have everything you need to fix this. It’d be lovely if it all came from him and none of it fell on us, but honestly, when has that ever happened, not with my hubby to be sure! Is it fair, nope, but it only takes one simple thing to fix it so be a big girl and take the step.


It’s as simple as that. If you are both into this, that will fix everything. His libido will explode, and stay that way. 

Like I say again and again, if we had a pill that did this we’d be force feeding it to our husbands or slipping it in their dinner without a thought!


And make it fun, if I were you. I’d act all sexy (this is literally what I’ve done a few times now actually, I get the same thing), ‘come to bed early tonight darling’ kind of thing. Post some really hot stuff to your shared tumblr, get him all excited. Then, tie him up. Give him a blow job and handjob that he TOTALLY doesn’t deserve. Because you know,  you’re actually being mean, and it’s so much fun to turn your annoyance into meanness, for you both.

And when he’s right on the edge, begging to cum (be VERY VERY CAREFUL not to tip him over by accident with this game). You say, ‘It’s a shame I had to initiate this, darling, if you had, I’d have made you cum so hard right now…’ and you reach over to the cock cage you have waiting, and leave his cock throbbing in the air while you explain just how it’s going to be.

And how it should be, I’d suggest, is caged without release for at least three days. And after that, he does NOT get out of his cage unless you’re feeling like it, it’s for him to make sure you’re in the right mood, not just by rubbing or licking you, but by the stuff that really makes us feel sexy, being appreciated, having jobs done around the house, surprising us with gifts or dinner. 

He has literally given you the key to make him behave like this. SO USE IT!

Once you’ve explained this send him down between your legs to show you how sorry he is, and start flicking through all my Locktober tasks to pick the ones YOU fancy doing.


I promise, in a couple of days, or more likely just an hour of being licked to as many orgasms as you can handle, you’ll be thinking to yourself, ‘Why am I so stupid and forget how well this works for us both?!’

But that’s okay, I’m here to remind you! And yes, I have to remind myself of this too, that’s okay. But we really need to be better at just loving this amazing thing we’ve discovered and not be silly enough to forget how well it works!

Let us know how you get on!

Jane xxx

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