I’ll tell you what I want, what I really really want…
I hope all went well with Day 1. Feedback is incredibly welcome, either in notes or a message! I like making this interactive. Hubby is looking adorable shaved, although I don’t want stubble burns so perhaps he’ll just have to stay that way now! lol
Day 2 is going to follow in a similar theme. Restrain him and edge him. if you don’t have restraints, or fancy a change, you can always just make him lie on his hands (and threaten to recage him if they come out at all).
Now he’s hopefully a bit hornier we’re going to use that to have a fun little interrogation. The key to this is the closer he is to the edge and the longer you’ve been doing it, the more honest he will be. Don’t tell him the plan until you’ve got him right on the edge, then say something like, ‘Right, now to find out what you really want and think!’. Then you keep teasing and playing as you talk. Here are some suggested questions
- How is being caged making you feel about me?
- Are you more concerned I’ll be too mean, or not mean enough?
- If you had to choose, would you rather be caged for a week, or a month?
- How long do you imagine being kept in the cage without being allowed out at all?
- Which parts of me do you most want to pleasure while you’re caged? (I encourage you, if he doesn’t say your arse, to suggest it, even if you’re not sure on the idea. Why? Because firstly he’s probably thinking it and it will surprise and turn him on if you say it, secondly if you haven’t had him lick there then OMG you really must try it, it’s SO sexy!)
- When we get to your ‘cum day’ does the thought of me changing my mind and keeping you locked longer excite you?
- How else should I take advantage of you while I’ve got you caged and horny?
- When you’re caged and being edged like this, are there other fantasies you have?
- Well done answering everything so truthfully, what would you like as your reward, a ruined orgasm, a full orgasm, another edge or whatever I want? (If he says anything but the last one you say , ‘Wrong answer darling, we’ll stop there, and get you back in your cage’. For the last answer, do what want, play more or stop, but no cumming of any kind.)
As always, if you want him to do things to you, just tell him to, before, after, during… He WANTS you to be more confident asking for pleasure from him, it’s super sexy, caged or not. Tomorrow the pleasure is going to be all yours 😉 In fact, advance warning for early risers, demand an orgasm from him before you get up to start the day!
A really big thing here for us women is just to be cool with any answers he gives. When you’re questioning him like this you are stripping away all the usual filters he has that take into consideration things like what you want to hear, which is part of the fun, and makes it so interesting, but you need to be very aware you are accessing his fantasies, it doesn’t mean it has to be that way. Even if he said something that might be quite shocking like cuckolding (you being with another guy) it’s JUST a fantasy, don’t stress about it.
What’s been interesting for me in the past when I’ve done this with hubby is just giving him the chance to voice a few fantasies he’d never told me actually acted like taking the lid off a pressure cooker and stopped him thinking about them so much.
So my point is, you do not have to DO all the things that come up from questioning like this, you are in charge and it happens the way you want it to. But it’s very good to know where he’s coming from and maybe become more open to some of them. For example with me I had no desire to peg him at all (use a strap-on on him) but he’d told me he liked the idea, I knew he’d played there himself in the past, and then, when we did try it recently and I made him cum from it it was amazing. Suddenly I thought, ‘oh my god, I’ve found another way to give my hubby pleasure and to make him cum, that’s awesome!’
Did you get any surprise answers? What was the sexiest thing he said? How is his horniness already? I’d love to know! Reblog with a note or send me a message!