We’ve been experimenting the last few weeks with keeping him in the cage a bit longer – basically because I wanted to see the effects. Till now a lot of the ideas really came from him but I’m starting to take the lead in some of this, which seems to really excite him, and make him nervous! lol I think he should be 🙂 I like this idea of him ‘really wanting out’ and that takes more than 2-3 days. Right now we’re in our first period where he has no idea when I’m going to let him out and it’s a huge turn on for us both xxx
Author: jane
I like the attitude in this – and he WANTS to be frustrated, it’s so hot!
Women readers, fancy a chat?
So I love all the messages I get from this blog, all the appreciation is most welcome, but it’s almost all from guys. I do get some questions that seem to be from women, but that’s about it. I’d really quite like to chat to other women about what they’re doing and if any of…
My boyfriend seems to have a lovehate thing with the idea of me making him swallow his cum, but I LOVE the idea. Got any tips on how to get him to do it?
Hiya, yeah hubby’s the same, he talks about it sometimes when I’m edging him and I feel how hard his cock gets but it really doesn’t turn him on when he’s not very horny (although I don’t think the idea repels him like it seems to some guys). Anyway, this is what I did, because…
You talked about watching porn together while he’s caged. Love this idea! Looked at the x-art and didn’t like much of it tho, any other recommendations? Thanks!
Thanks, I love questions like this. I just looked at x-art too and you’re right, the stuff on their website doesn’t look nearly as nice as the older stuff hubby found for me. Youporn.com has a ‘female friendly’ category but just checked that and didn’t think it was great either. Why not start with tumblr, something…
I really liked the interrogation idea but found it hard to think of good questions. Have you got any other suggestions of things to ask? Thank you, love the blog!!!!!!!
Oh nice question, that was one of my first posts I think! Okay, here are some off the top of my head. Just to refresh, you do this when he’s quite restrained, it seems to add to the experience, and most important is that you’re stimulating him, he should be near the edge the whole…
‘Don’t ask me, tell me, it’s much hotter’
That’s what hubby said to me at the weekend. As you’ll know if you’ve read the blog, he’s actually pretty dominant, (although obviously wonderfully switchy given we do all this!) but he was very clear with me that when he’s caged, particularly when I want oral sex without letting him out, he wants me to tell him to do it, not be polite and ask.
Things you might say:
- ‘Honey I’m horny, come and lick my clit for a while
- I’m in the mood for some oral sex, no baby, just on me
- Make me cum with your mouth, right now
- Are you horny and frustrated honey? Good, me too, but I’m not in a cage, so come and suck on my clit if you ever want to be let out
- You get the idea…
The other twist for us is that when he’s down there, he teases the living fuck out of me. One reason is because it reminds me when he’s out of the cage he loves to deny me (it really is a shared kink!) but also he’s told me he loves it when i get so desperate I grab his hair and push him against me. Mmmm, I love it when he does that to me too so it’s not hard to empathise!
The two positions that we use most are simply me lying on the bed and him on it too, but also like this picture, with me on the edge of the bed and him kneeling on the floor.
My latest game is to make him do this and then put on some porn, but he can’t watch because he’s between my legs. OMG so sexy. I never really used to like porn at all but he used to watch lots, so this is a HUGE tease for him. But more than that, I’ve actually found some I like that gives me some great ideas of how to ‘act’ sexy and as long as we watch it together I feel okay with it. Actually when I say, I found it, he did… I told him to find me some he thought I’d like, with his cage on of course – that got some fun messages about how mean I was :D. FYI the majority of the stuff I liked was by a company called X-art, as the name suggests, it’s absolutely beautiful and very classy.
This is my favourite thing at the moment, although I tend to tie his arms up and I’m kneeling not balancing on my toes…
I struggled with this for ages as I wasn’t sure about ‘the view’ he had, so the other really good tip, given I’m not some waif with ribs showing is if I’m feeling self concious (there is nothing more exposed than this!) I blindfold him!
Sometimes I suck him like this photo, other times I rub him with lubed hands, but also more and more I sit up and just let him do it.
Often I’ll start off with him caged and maybe let him out if he ‘does a good enough job’.
He loves it, his only ever request is that I wash really, really well as he’s a fan of doing it when I’m squeaky clean (although I know some guys prefer it more musty from what I read) – so for me it’s a shower before with a neutral soap and a quick douche with the shower spray.
The newer addition, pretty much totally inspired by stuff I’ve seen on here, is shifting forward a little and telling him to ‘lick my arsehole’. I was so nervous the first time I said it, but I watched his cock spring up hard in response and then when he did… OMG, it felt amazing and honestly one of the most intimate things I’ve ever experienced. He does this thing now where we’re with other people and he just seductively licks his lips or his finger tip and I melt. So hot!
I just thought this was super hot!
If I’ve kept hubby caged for more than a couple of days saying this kind of thing is usually a huge turn on. Anything insinuating it’ll be a very long time till he gets out even if I have no plans to do longer at all.