My wife and I are getting back into our femdom and other kinky play but have a harness question. We have a Sportsheets harness that goes around each leg but she says it’s uncomfortable and think one that goes between the the butt cheeks would be better. Do you know where to find one like that? What kind of harness do you think is best?

Umm, I’m no expert – we bought ours at Lovehoney, I can’t find the exact one but if you search restraints there are loads of options. It connects up under the bed. But we tend to have it come over the top and bottom more than making it into a big X shape, which is more comfy. It’s padded velcro straps though, never had a problem with comfort.

It’s a huge turn on for him though, being restrained while I play. Because he’s quite dominant it’s the one thing that truly reverses the power in our play time. We maybe use them a few times a month, and always for things like post orgasm torture.