I covered this in the Locktober intro I think but I was a super vanilla virgin when I got together with hubby to be, but thankfully he wasn’t and he got me to open up to all this (using female orgasm denial as a major tool in that). So I was submissive but it was never anything extreme, just a nice level of kinkiness.
But chastity play and cock cages and all the rest has only been since we got our first cage last year – and what a ride that’s been!