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9 Reasons Why Men Are Insecure About Their Penis Size

  1. Penetrative intercourse is popularly held as being “real sex.” Everything else is just “foreplay.”  This emphasis on penetration as the act that makes the sex obviously puts a great deal of attention on the penis and its penetrative function. And you don’t want to be inadequate in that regard, now do you? Penetration is only one way to have sex, and often it’s more cumbersome and dangerous than other ways–STDs, pregnancy, condom issues, erection issues, vaginal/anal pain etc. Open your mind up, and if the person you are with does not want to open up with you, move on. Positive thinking is open thinking, especially in sex.
  2. There is a lot of hype about big dick. We call it hype, of course, because it’s not actually real. But it’s everywhere… the jokes, the stories about “that guy who’s hung like a bull,” and nowadays, all the porn movies, where pretty much all the dick is well above the norm in size and physically attractive women squeal and gush about how “it’s so BIG!” and that kind of thing. It wouldn’t be an issue if smaller penises were as talked about–but they aren’t, so naturally there is a biased consciousness out there that leans toward big penises. And it is true…
  3. For intercourse, there is a general preference for penises that are at least a certain thickness and length. BUT… even when it is said that “size does matter,” often “the bigger the better” is presumed to be the real meaning of this. Not so! It is merely a preference for the penis not to be very small for penetration–and very small is a description that the vast majority of men’s penises do not actually fit in any way. Though there is a not-so-large percentage of women [and guys] who do prefer bigger than average penises, that percentage is evened out by those who might even like it a little smaller than average; there’s just a lot more hype about big dicks, that’s all, so that’s all we hear. The overwhelming majority of the time, “average” is definitely quite good enough for a rockin’ good time, and too big can sometimes be quite troublesome and spoil the fun. Same thing for anal intercourse–the big cock hype distorts what a desirable size really is. And another thing to remember…
  4. Heterosexual men often don’t see a lot of penises, let alone get to be near them and hold them and have any real sense of comparison between different ones. And the less you are acquainted with something, the more likely it is that you’ll have some very untrue ideas about it, especially if there is all this hype going around. So men who have quite nice-sized penises spend all this time worrying, because they have no sense of real proportion and often they’re only seeing and hearing about cock in porn and in conversations about “how BIG he was,” and all that jazz. In fact, being big generally does not mean a great deal except at one particular point…
  5. The visual. There is one area in which a big penis is big news: when you first see it. A big display of sex does grab one’s attention–and men who don’t get this “mmm, that’s big!” reaction when they first whip it out might feel like their woman won’t be as aroused as she would be if the cock were heftier. Thing is, how a cock looks at first sight is not a good indicator of how it’s going to feel. And plus, she may likely want to feel it in more than one place, which is easier to do with a cock that isn’t too big… so don’t get discouraged if you don’t have a ginormous one; confidence and being in tune with your partner are the things that will really produce the pleasure.
  6. We talk about penis as if that’s what a man is. Seriously. Saying something like “he’s kind of small” or “I’m thicker than average” makes it sound like a man is his penis, doesn’t it? We can substitute “he is ___” with “his penis is ___” and get the same point across without the hidden implication that the penis is the man. No wonder there’s so much male insecurity, because…
  7. Popular culture puts a lot pressure on men to be “man enough.” If you aren’t “man enough,” people won’t respect you. If you aren’t “man enough,” you won’t be able to match a woman well. because you won’t lead with authority like a man is “supposed to.” And if you aren’t “man enough,” you won’t be able to please her, either, and she’ll look for someone who has a bigger manhood. The conflation of “manhood” with “penis” is too easy to make in our penis-centric view of masculinity, so naturally men feel a pressure to be very “manly” in that department. 
  8. You can’t change your penis size. You can get bigger muscles, become more athletic, learn new skills, enlighten yourself in other ways… but this basic piece of manhood is pretty much unchangeable. If you are less than fully satisfied with what you’ve got, well, this is obviously something you don’t want to be judged by, right?
  9. Manhood and masculinity are harmfully narrow concepts these days. The predominant perception of how a man is supposed to be is really messed up: it’s a one-dimensional, either-or view that teaches little appreciation for the finer things in life. So without any sense of the diversity of things to be appreciated in life men fetishize the few things that they perceive matter, which can often be limited to cars, sex (one kind of sex, especially), and sports (this is not always true, of course, but especially in the absence of education it becomes more and more so).

What an interesting discussion!

My wife and I have been involved in Chastity for about two months now and I have been reading that long term chastity wear actually shrinks a mans penis over time. Do you know if this is factual or can you guide me to a place to inquire?

From what I’ve read, yes it’s true if you’re caged up for weeks without release, but only very temporary, it just takes a day or two to ‘decompress’. So nothing to worry about.

Hopefully it’s not to personal but I’m just curious about your husband’s measurements (hard and soft). Also have you ever considered using a Mature Metal cage like the Jailbird?

‘If it’s not too personal how big is your husband’s penis?’ lol It’s perfectly average. And no, we haven’t considered a Mature Metal or similar device because they’re so expensive and we can’t see how that’s justified over the cages we use already, which aren’t custom fitted but look and feel great already. If they…

I saw this today and thought it was a really hot caption to do with the quite complex but fun area of cock size teasing. On the same Tumblr I then found a link to an interesting article about small penis ‘teasing’ vs ‘humiliation’. This bit stuck out:

“I found this amazing female sexual therapist and went through my whole sexual history with her. When I explained that I was confused about why I had gotten an immediate erection when my wife acknowledged that I was small, she said something to me that was very profound and the light bulb went on. She said, “It arouses you because you’re eroticizing what has always been a negative feeling for you.” I had never thought of it in that way before, but it was very true. She continued by saying, “Steve, what you want is for your wife to acknowledge your internal truth and by her doing so, it will also demonstrate her acceptance of your small penis.” She was right on again, so, when I conveyed all of this to my wife, the small penis “teasing” began. Yes, I do enjoy it, and she never does it in a “humiliating” way, just a little teasing, and she’s always very happy with my reaction, so we just have a lot of fun with it. If you haven’t read her article about her feelings about this subject I would encourage you to read it. She is very creative – much like the intent of the image above.

So how would I define small penis teasing? That’s a good question. This probably isn’t the perfect definition, but is certainly a much more moderate definition than SPH.“Small penis teasing is defined as a man who gains sexual arousal when his wife makes frequent honest comments about the small size of his penis (length and/or girth), and being compared to her dildos or other men who are better-endowed, and his need to compensate for his penis size by being sexually creative.”  This probably isn’t a perfect definition but is a start.”

Source: https://goo.gl/1ynqXk

He does then go on to say cages count as humiliation not teasing but I’m going to disagree there, he clearly hasn’t seen how much fun we have with it 😛 But yeah, that blog seems to cover everything you could ever want to discuss about it (says the woman who runs a cock cage tumblr…)



gotta love this.

Maybe I can have a chance.

Well it seems Blue Pills come to the rescue again! lol That 9 inch on in the picture looks the size of a church candle, oh my goodness!

I think I’ve just been inspired for another Locktober task though 🙂