This is true!
If you’re not adding a plug sometimes when he’s caged then you’re both missing out. Not only is it a really hot thing for you to tell him you want, but I find it acts like a horniness accelerator! His balls fill up more, he gets horny faster, it’s great.
It needs to be a plug that’s comfy for him to wear though. Most are awful designs. The ones we highly recommend are the Roll Play plugs that are silicon, a lovely shape that sits very subtle inside, but most of all feature a ball inside that moves around and reminds him it’s there (yes otherwise he can forget – although his constantly dripping cock is a pretty good reminder lol).
Also if you’re going to try pegging then him wearing it before makes it go a lot more easily.
Probably my favourite thing though is him being plugged, caged and then using the strap on on me, as the ball rolls around right against his prostate and drives him crazy while he fucks me – so hot.
(Lovehoney have a special offer of 2 plugs for £15 (or $20) on right now which includes all three sizes of these – bargain!)
The sexual frustration that comes from losing control of your cock is the result of being kept in a prolonged state of intense sexual arousal. This can come in the form of a single night’s cock stroking to the tease and denial games of a masturbatrix… or a series of sessions spanning days or even weeks of long term orgasm denial that may include regular cock stroking with no release, or no masturbation at all – forced male chastity.
The objective is to tease and manipulate the slave to the very edge of orgasm and ride it for as long as the masturbatrix decides… hovering in that intensely sensitive, euphoric state a man enters just before he cums, and enjoying it far longer than one would if the act of masturbation.
Relief can only come with an orgasm, and denial of that will end in nothing but pain in the form of what’s commonly known as “blue balls”.
Another possible ending other than blue balls is what’s called a “ruined orgasm”, where the man is allowed to cum but as the orgasm arrives – absolutely no touching – and thus robbing him of the full enjoyment of his climax, leaving him feeling finished, but unfulfilled… and since he didn’t really get what he wanted – also left feeling very submissive and used.
So, I’m not a dominatrix, I’m never going to be. I’m loving being switchy with hubby and how the cock cage makes me feel empowered and sexy, however taking control all the time just ain’t my thing.
But there’s a word in here that I totally LOVE:
That’s SO hot, that’s totally what I’ve become! My hubby, who used to masturbate quite a lot before we discovered chastity play, now NEVER does, I am in control of it all (unless he’s doing it for me of course). And I’m adoring spending long evenings stroking him and then usually denying him or perhaps ruining him.
Damn, I’ve become a Masturbatrix! And I love it!
Completely ruining the orgasm, ideas?
- Let go as soon as orgasm starts
- Let go earlier than above after edging lots to get a tiny dribble each time
- Let go then block with thumb/palm
- Edge until its not fun then really early ruining
- Pegs on balls for 10 minutes while edging (at least 3 pegs) ruin it normally but take all pegs off fast as soon as i let go
- An hour or more of porn with massive frustration, then very slow ruined orgasm(s) usiing one finger on the back of the head or slow rubbing on head. no other stimulation.
- An hour or more of porn followed by 3-5 *extremely* fast ruined orgasms until dry
- post orgasm torture? Or 3-5 ruined orgasms with post orgasm torture but no orgasm
- Lots of porn followed by dry towelling torture until super sensitive then dry orgasm with foreskin held back. towelling every 2 minutes to dry and torture. Possibly ruined too.
- Ruined orgasm by any method with tin foil scrunched over head during dribbles.
- Use numb cream on the penis head 10 minutes before touching him
Can anyone else think of some particularly nasty, evil and frustrating ways to “cum” minimizing the enjoyment as much as possible. It should leave him disappointed, frustrated, possibly horny and desperate afterwards.
I think my favourite thing with ruins is denying my husband long and hard enough that even though he doesn’t want to be ruined, he starts to crave it because it’s all I might let him have.
And then of course, how about promising a ruin and then denying him that too!