Hmm, not sure how to help there. We often advise setting up a shared secret tumblr account so you can do that kind of thing. Really I think you’re best being honest and saying ‘There’s this thing I read about that really intrigues me’
Here’s some other thoughts i had on this:
https://keephimcaged.tumblr.com/post/142747355225/how-can-i-get-my-wife-to-do-this
I am working on something that might help in future but can’t say much about it now xxx