It’s a little over a year now since we bought our first cock cage. We just added it as a fun little addition to some other toys we were buying. Little did we know what an amazing, and wonderful transformation it would bring to our married sex life!
We’ve been married over ten years now, and have two kids in primary school. And despite us having a very active, and kinky sex life when we first got married, like many others, becoming parents really took the wind out of the sails of the intimacy and fun we shared in the bedroom (and everywhere else at times!).
So many of the good habits we had, making time for each other, being romantic, getting sexually creative, trying new things, sharing a naughty intimacy… well, they’d fallen by the wayside as the pressures of parenthood meant they were harder to find time and energy for.
We knew it was an issue, and we did some things to address it. Date nights definitely helped, finally getting family to look after the kids while we took the very rare ‘dirty weekend’ away was great too (when we didn’t just take the opportunity to sleep…).
But to my utter incredulity, the single most significant breakthrough in revitalising our sex life and getting it all back on track (and better than ever in many ways) was the exploration of chastity play, and specifically the purchase of a cock cage to use to enliven our sex life.
If you’re reading this and are sceptical, I totally understand. A year ago I would have been too. I’m very open to try new things so was happy to give it a go, but had absolutely no expectations it would be more than amusing to try once!
I could not have been more wrong.
As you can read in this blog, much to my amazement exploring this together has absolutely revitalised the intimacy in our marriage and our sex life has genuinely never been better.
And so, I thought with Father’s Day coming up we’d use it as an excuse to prompt some readers of this blog (and there’s thousands of you now!) to actually try it for yourselves!
I’m putting together some ‘beginners’ guides’ to help you get started exploring this together, but as I do that, I want to encourage you to take that next step.
If you’re the woman then you could safely do this as a surprise if your partner has ever hinted he’s interested in exploring this. If you’re the guy then I would recommend you don’t go down the surprise route… maybe show her this and say it sounds worth checking out… what does she think?
I’m posting this now as it means those overseas could still get the free postage offers from Lovehoney and get the required bits in time for Father’s Day on 19th June.
What to get?
There’s no question what you should buy if this is your first time exploring this. You need a CB-6000S cock cage (or the larger CB-6000 if you’re bigger than 4 inches when flaccid, or ‘The Curve’ if you’ve got a huge one!) which is the most popular there is, and for good reason. You can have 25 different size and spacer configurations so it’s the best chance of a good fit you can have, and ideal for first exploring this.
I highly recommend you buy it from our favourite toy store, Lovehoney, for the simple reason they give you a 365 day no questions asked money back guarantee. Yep, if for any reason you don’t like it, you just send it back for a full refund. You can buy cheaper fakes on ebay but the one we had came with rough edges, and split, catching hubby’s cock very, very painfully. Trust me, you do not want this! Buy a real one and if you don’t like it get ALL your money back, much smarter.
You should also buy a good lube if you don’t have it, they’re the secret to making wearing a cage comfortable. Silicone lube is the way to go in our opinion.
Exclusive special offers link – currently for the US you can save 20% off any spend over $250 and get free shipping too (code
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So get it ordered, and I’m going to be adding some beginners guide to this (I’m also creating a ‘safe’ version of the blog on WordPress which has all the more racey pics and posts removed – which is something I’ve been asked for a lot.)
If I can be of any help in the meantime, ask me a question! But if this is something you’ve been waiting for ages for an excuse to get, now is the time!
This is my new mission, to get lots of lovely couples enjoying a new intimacy and excitement about their sex lives together. So try it, you won’t regret it!