I have to disagree with you. You recently wrote how your husband was lucky to have a wife strong enough to withhold his orgasms. In reality, your desire to fulfill your kink is strong enough for you to deny your husband the pleasure of his orgasms. It is obvious that he would prefer to cum, but he allows you to deny him. You have pushed him to a state where he has given up on pussy. Control and denial are different. You could control him and pleasure him. It is your kink that wants him denied!