Month: July 2015

laotk:

Sex for the keyholder #1

As keyholder, all this male sex and teasing may make you horny. One of the best benefits of having a caged male is his interest in providing you with lots of orgasms. His wish to do this is driven by two powerful forces: 

One is his desire to convince you to get him off. In his mind, giving you an orgasm might put you in the mood to give him one. 

The other reason is more subtle; giving you orgasms is sex and even though he doesn’t get to come, he can still experience the pleasure of giving you orgasms.

Regardless of his state of waiting, feel free to have him provide you with sexual attention whenever you want. But, don’t let him push you into getting more attention than you desire. 

A lot of males will try to deal with their frustration by convincing their keyholders to orgasm frequently. Take sex from him when you want, not when he wants.

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laotk:

Non-orgasmic activities #2

Ok, you have him naked and on his back. Remove his cage. Once uncaged, masturbate him. Watch him carefully. If you want, tell him to let you know when he is close. You can tell him that if he has an “accident” he will stay locked with no teasing for a month. Get him to help you, but don’t necessarily believe him in the beginning.

Tease him any way you want. The objective is to get him close to orgasm without letting him get release. Getting him very aroused is just as good as bringing him right to the edge. While he may think it is for his fun, your real objective is to keep those hormones flowing and reminding his body of what it is missing. You can do this over and over as many times as you want. If you keep it up long enough, he will actually lose the ability to come for a while. Just remember, no orgasms until his release date!

When you are done, lock him up again and have him lick or finger you to as many orgasms as you like. 

This basically nails it (although I’d say something like a month but not mean it, just to fuck with him).

faontk:

A ruined orgasm is another way of asserting control over the male

The most pleasurable element of male orgasm isn’t the orgasm itself, but the heightened sensitivity of the penis, particularly the glans, during orgasm.

 If all sensation is denied the moment the orgasm starts, the pleasure is reduced by a good 80%. A ruined orgasm also often leaves the male feeling slightly unsatisfied and eager for more reward, which is a better option for keeping him in the proper mindset.

She’s doing it wrong

From my testing (I’ve really got into giving these…) Apparently it feels much, much less pleasurable when you either stop contact completey, or hold his cock much further down. Her squeezing it like that would feel pretty damn good.

The reason to hold it, is if he’s spurting, it’s quite fun to direct it! lol

The perfect ruined one, and I’m still not quite sure how it happens, is when you get the cum to just flow out but not spurt, it’s so hot! It’s just about finding the exact tipping point and stopping, I think.

There’s about a ten second delay before the cum can come out sometimes, so don’t be too fast to go back!

Hubby stays really horny after this, but it takes about five minutes for him to get back to it. So…. my really nasty twist is to make him cum into a glass, get him horny again, and then make him drink it (for another orgasm if he can perhaps or to avoid being caged again…). The hottest one is me pouring it into my mouth and then kissing him – we do that anyway sometimes after a blowjob. From a glass is more clinical and mean, when I feel like a bitch… he expects me to swallow… this is payback.

laotk:

Enforced chastity 

The main point of enforced chastity is to transfer control of the caged male’s sexual pleasure from him to his keyholder. It is a power exchange. As keyholder you need to maintain his sexual desire throughout his waiting time. He has to be desperate for release in order for him to truly feel sexually controlled. To keep him that way, you will need to stimulate him on a regular basis without providing him the opportunity to orgasm or ejaculate.

An ultimate expression of your power is to replace his scheduled orgasm with a ruined one. This is very frustrating to the male and will imprint strongly that you, in fact, own his pleasure. Since ruined orgasms do reset his physical need for orgasm, if not his mental one, they should not be intentionally given before his scheduled release date.

Sex for you is independent of his pleasure. You should use him to give you orgasms whenever you desire them. If you want intercourse without him ejaculating, you will have to train him to hold back. This can be done through punishment for accidents and with training aids: multiple condoms and/or numbing cream.

Your male has asked you to control his ability to get sexual pleasure. It’s up to you to assert that control and have fun in the process!

So this is the essence of what we do. But I think the big difference with what most chastity blogs on here say is that we don’t do it for crazy long amounts of time! It can be as little as a few hours, or a day or two most often. We’ve done it for a week as the longest time we ever did it. And then we rarely put it back on again after that denial has finished, we do other stuff.

However, the cage does come off MOST DAYS, as for me the intensity of it isn’t about how long I’ve kept him denied but edging him every day (or even a few times a day) and then putting the cage back on.

With the week long denial I’d unlock him first thing, quickly wank him for about three minutes, and then send him to the shower, he was allowed to wash, yes touch, but not wank, and then I’d put the cage back on him. Then pretty much most nights (five out of seven maybe?) we played for about an hour which was a mix of him pleasing me and then finally taking the cage off while he was restrained, edging him a few times, leaving him like that as I read a book and putting the cage back on when he’d gone back down.

Yeah, it was insanely sexy, for us both.

I’ll talk about ruined orgasms in another post. 😀

teased-pleased:

What do you mean “I gotta cum”…?  That is not your decision..at all.

Love her teasing pouty face! lol