Huge fan! Definitely got us into enjoying October in a different way. Just wondering what you guys do on period week?

Thanks so much! Well, originally when I was the one being denied, hubby used it as an excuse to go ‘anal only’ which drove me crazy and… yeah I kind of loved – trust me I was as surprised as anyone.

Nowadays when it’s me getting the lion’s share of the orgasms I tend to use it as an excuse just to keep him locked up, and maybe get my feet rubbed! I’m on contraceptives that mean it’s usually very light so I’m only out of action for 2-3 days. 

So on the whole I’d recommend you use it as an excuse to be unfair and mean and keep him locked up – there’s something remarkably satisfying about a guy suffering because of a period lol I have made it worse by making him spend time finding hot tumblr things for me to look at when I’m feeling more up for it, knowing it’ll make him ache even more. 

Gosh I am getting mean aren’t I.

Oh, and I’m not averse to teasing him with my bottom, ‘Remember when you just use to fuck here on my period darling? Wouldn’t that feel so nice now? How ironic your tongue gives it more attention than your cock..’ kind of thing 😀

Jane xxx

When buying a cage what is the best option? One to allow a lot of growth. Small amount of growth. Or no growth at all. Tks.

Hi there.

In our experience you want to allow no room for growth, it should be a nice snug fit when they aren’t aroused at all. I guess you could get a long one that they’d grow fully into, but they don’t tend to be designed that way, most go down, and penises try to go up!

But what’s worst is having a BIT of a room to grow, so they start to get hard and then hit the end, that seems to be the worst. 

Plus I like a nice snug fit because I imagine it’s my hand holding him tight. So yes, definitely go for no growth at all.

Jane xx

Make the most of every opportunity!

Don’t miss an opportunity to edge him, even if it’s just idly like this while doing something else.
More edges = hornier = better
Just make it second nature to simply tell him ‘get your cock out’. Even when you’re not in the mood, try it. Once you have your hand wrapped around his cock and hear his little frustrated horny moans you will be happy you did.

The movement she’s doing here is basically perfect. If he’s horny then the precum he produces will be enough to just keep that bit lubed indefinitely. If you run dry just give one stroke up his cock and more will seep out.

Leave him hanging…
It’s really hot to just stop sometimes, as though you’ve forgotten, leaving him there getting desperate for even the gentle touches. A cock ring makes this even more fun as he’ll stay harder longer and ache for more.

If you’re in the mood, wait till he asks for more, then say ‘if you ask again you’re going back in your cage’ – trust me, so hot. Being ignored isn’t hot, but knowing you’re doing it deliberately, amazing!

If he goes limp, tease him, ‘maybe he should just be locked up again’ (watch him get hard at that lol)

Personally I like playing with his flaccid cock too, if you’ve edged him so he’s already really sensitive, or he’s been caged a while, slow, lubed strokes and finger play that isn’t enough to get him hard will drive him absolutely crazy.

Make him do it!
And if you get bored, or really don’t want to, tell HIM to!

‘Edge your cock for me’

Or make it more productive than that:

‘Edge for me while you find me some hot tumblr posts’
or even more specific
‘Edge for me while you find me some big cocks’ 
Or whatever you’re in the mood for, sloppy blowjobs, romantic pics, mean bitches, ruined orgasms, cum shots, etc – and then you look at them while he goes down on you!

Or you can go directly to that, just have him go down on you, while he edges himself. Watch a movie, read a book, or browse Tumblr while he does. If he’s getting too excited, or just to mess with him, get him to stop sometimes and just focus on you. Then tell him to stroke it again. 

Try a dry, cleaned out condom on him to see how much precum he can produce!

Or add some variety, surprise him by throwing him dildo and some lube, he’ll think it’s for you, and sure you could do that, but even hotter to say ‘it’s for you, fuck your arse while you lick me’ (and even add ‘if you can cum from just that I’ll let you’)

Hiya – inspiring tumblr, ty! So were really enjoying exploring all this but my boyfriend keeps cumming when Im edging him. I do ruin it but I dont want him to at all. Any tips? TY! Zoe

Hiya Zoe,

Yes this is often an issue but it’s pretty easily fixed with a few things. And it’s actually really important as you want him to really feel you’re in charge of him getting his release for not only the full balls to happen, which is super hot, but also for his horniness to really kick in, which is so much fun!

So, you need to set down these rules, and KEEP TO THEM!

I suggest you cuddle next to him while edging him and then tell him ‘how it’s going to be’ and make him agree.

Rule 1: It’s always his fault if he cums. It doesn’t matter if you’re edging him, or he is or if you’re having intercourse or whatever. If he ejaculates, it’s HIS fault. He could have told you to stop, he SHOULD have told you to stop or slow down.

So here’s how we like to play it. If he’s ‘in chastity’ that is, his cock is caged up and has just been let out for playing, then he is NOT allowed to cum without permission. One way we identify that is also we usually leave the base ring of the cage back on him as a cock ring while we play. So that makes doubly sure he knows, if the ring of a cage is around his cock he is not to cum.

The main thing I want to prevent is him ‘sneaking over’ into cumming. So if he gets close he has to ask ‘Can I cum’ or ‘Can I ruin’ if he prefers. 

If he doesn’t ask, or if you say ‘no’ and he goes over anyway, then you need to be pretty strict on imposing a punishment.

What we often do, and probably the best one for many is he has to be ruined, obviously, but then he has to clean up the mess too… Easiest is just to move your cupped hand to catch whatever spurts out and then say ‘open up’ and without much fuss pour it into their mouth and maybe lick your palm.

I didn’t like it much at first, but honestly it’s now become a turn on. A few things helped. Firstly the knowledge that he ALWAYS wants me to swallow it, so it’s just, fair! Secondly I just like it being the fact he’s cleaning up the mess he made. It’s how it should be!

Now, when they’re super horny often the idea of having to swallow their cum actually gets kind of hot for them, which is fascinating. So they might even go over on purpose. And personally, I’m fine with that. They never really want to do it after they have cum, so it’s always a bit of a punishment, but it’s also kind of hot, to me anyway, as I said.

But they only get away with that the first time.

The second time they do it, catch all the cum again, but then wait. Tell them to put the hands behind their head if they don’t happen to be tied up. And after maybe ten seconds, use their cum to give them a hard post orgasm torture wank.

This is pretty brutal, rubbing their cock when it’s most sensitive, and is both amusing and a good punishment!

You’re also free to mix it up, not let him know if he’s going to have to eat it or get jerked off with it, just to keep it fresh (and give you the freedom to do which you fancy).

Other punishments can include rubbing menthol in to their cocks, or putting an elastic band around it and ‘snapping’ the band a few times.

Beyond that, there’s the whole idea of ‘soft edges’ where you just play with his cock but never get him close enough to cum. That’s hot too. Especially effective with him in a cock ring or having taken viagra to keep hard but then never really taken that close.

But also you can deliberately get them soft by playing too gently to let them stay hard, and then tease them about it. That can be very hot! It still feels really good apparently. But you can say ‘must want back in his cage if he’s got small…’

Hope those help!

So there’s lots of places where you can get good advice on GIVING oral sex, but I thought it’d be useful to give some advice on how to RECEIVE it and make it all the hotter!

Hot things to SAY while he’s going down on you:

  • Your tongue’s so much better than your cock
  • You lick me so much better when you’re locked up
  • This feels so good, I don’t even want to let your little dick out
  • Oh god, I wish you could fuck me now, shame you’re caged up
  • Oh if you had a big cock I’d want you to fuck me so hard right now
  • Tongue fuck me, lick up the mess I’m making
  • Suck on my clit, I want to cum on your face

And in general just moaning loudly and saying how good it feels! Yes, overdo the moaning, he loves it and being vocal, even if it’s faked a bit, makes it feel even better.

Hot things to DO while he’s going down on you:

  • Start playing with your breasts, really enjoy how they feel, rub, pull, squeeze even suck on them if you can.
  • Pick up a book or put on some porn to watch, make it clear you’re in no hurry!
  • Give him a toy to use in you, or tell him to finger fuck you – give him directions, it’s so hot!Run your fingers through his hair then push him on you harder
  • Grab his hair and grind on his face as you cum (seriously, try this)
  • Lift your knees up and spread them wide so your pussy is really exposed
  • Roll over on your tummy and make it clear he’s to lick your bottom
  • TELL HIM to make you cum, don’t just wait for him. When you want it, tell him, make him give you an orgasm, then have some more!
  • Kiss him afterwards and taste yourself on his tongue, no holding back, it’s super sexy

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We just got a cage and are loving it, thank you for the inspiration! How often should I be letting him out and teasing him do you think?

Good question! I’m so glad you’re having fun with all this, it’s fab isn’t it.

So firstly the more we do this the more I’m trying teasing WITHOUT letting him out, so do try that too! That’s mostly things like secretly grabbing his cage during the day, or sliding up behind him and rubbing his nipples, which drives him wild. Bascially I think to myself ‘how can I get him hard in the cage?’

So it’s other stuff too, sending him hot pictures or captions from Tumblr with little comments like ‘I bet you wish I’d do that to you, shame you’re in a cage’. Recently I even send him hot cock pictures and tease him with things like ‘guess what I want tonight…’ letting him know he’ll use our King Cock dildo. I sent him one this week with just ‘I wish your cock was this big’ and he told me it was one of the hottest things I’ve sent all year! lol

Then of course there’s teasing about how horny he is, the ones he likes most are me telling him I love him being caged, so stuff like, ‘Knowing you’re caged turns me on so much;, ‘I’m wet thinking about your little caged cock’, or teases ‘I hope you don’t think you’re getting out of that cage tonight, I have plans for your tongue’.

Then there’s the teases in bed together, which are most important I think. So if he stirs in the morning it’s almost always now because he’s trying to get hard in his cage, and omg that feels so sexy, so I always cuddle up to him and play gently with his bulging cage, and also rub and lick his nipples sometimes to make it even worse. A recent thing, because he challenged me to try it, is then, if it’s getting me horny and it often does, I whisper in his ear, ‘Go down on me’.

Let me just say, omg having your hubby lick you to orgasm is the BEST way to start the day! Sometimes I’ll uncage him and return the favour (with only an edge of course) before I then go shower and tell him I want it back on before I’m back. What’s fun about that is yes he can play BUT he has to get soft before he can put it back on so he can’t do it for long, which is sexy.

Then at night, well I used to uncage him for edging almost every night, and I still do the majority of the time, but we’ve been exploring ways to stimulate him like using a masturbater on the cage (only works if metal cages with bars to suit) or licking/rubbing his frenulum through the bars – now we have such a good fitting cage I’m just enjoying keeping him in it more I guess.

And then there’s just the spooning, wrapped around him, fingers playing with nipples and his caged cock, it used to be he’d be pressed into me mostly after sex, but at the moment I’m liking it the other way around.

So yes, I hope there’s some ideas for you there. Denial without the tease is pretty boring so make sure you’re taking every opportunity to keep him horny and he’ll love you all the more for it!