managing blueballs?

Hi Jane, firstly thanks so much for doing his blog! it means a lot that it has been produced without the typical extreme stuff associated with other tumblr chastity blogs. In addition, your female perspective significantly helps us men to encourage our wives/SOs to get involved. Thank you!

So, my very vanilla wife is slowly opening up to my love of chastity, and although she doesn’t want to lock me up long-term, she’s seen the benefits of denying me. Yesterday, whilst I was warming her up, we had a great time, and she teased me with the idea that I might or might not be able to come later today, or maybe tomorrow. This sounded great, and I wanted to encourage it… we continued with the rest of our day (grocery shopping/house-work etc), but I was really struggling with bluebells, and ultimately had to ask to be able to get a release and ease the pain. This felt like I had failed… I wanted to wait, but the aching was too much. would you have any advice for how i could have overcome this better? I don’t want to miss these rare occasions when I’m making great progress down the chastity/T&D road with my wife. Thanks a lot!

Hi there, thanks for the compliments!

In terms of blueballs I didn’t really believe it was such a big thing until hubby made it VERY clear it could be very sore. At first I was very keen to fix it, and if you are then a ruined orgasm is a great way to do it.

Now I find I kind of enjoy being a bit meaner – as hubby likes to complain about stuff like this, and frankly, we have period cramps every month and we live with it! Soooo, while he could still safeword to stop everything of course, if he complains about blueballs my standard response now is… ‘good!’ lol I kind of like them aching, even hurting. And he tells me, when I reply like that, it’s so hot me being mean that he starts enjoying it too! Cool huh!

If it gets really bad then a ruin is a good idea, but I like to make it a bit meaner – so my current favourite is he has to try and cum into his own mouth! This involves him putting his legs up on the bed and then leaning them back over so his cock is near his mouth. It’s as complicated as it sounds, but quite fun. I found a relevant picture – 

A simpler version without the acrobatics is to cum into a shot glass and swallow it.

I didn’t much like that idea at first but after I realised I’d been expected to swallow his cum for YEARS I’ve felt much better about him getting the same treatment now!

A final thing on blue balls is in theory men just pee the excess ejaculate out, so it might be worth just seeing what difference a day or two makes – it’s not like it’s a medical emergency… 

If men had periods – https://www.buzzfeed.com/floperry/manpon

keephimcaged:

This just got sent to me… I don’t know quite what to say but thanks, I guess? I’d normally never post dick pic so don’t take this as an invite. 

And to the guy who keeps sending me captions, they are okay, not great, but I have no idea if the woman in them gave her consent so I’m never posting them.

PS where can I get a chart like this? 😛

I was looking for this chart and had forgotten it got sent to me in the first place, lol

Hubby found the original:

It’d be really mean to print it out slightly oversized, wouldn’t it…

Anyway, I posted this as in discussing plans for Locktober, the idea of this month being Sizetember came up, which is kind of fun. So I’ll post various size teasing bits and pieces for you lot to enjoy (as lots of you seem to!)

Jane xx

smallofshame:

12 Ways For Men To Show Off a Bulge in Public

  1. Wear underwear that supports and pushes up
  2. Pack your penis and testicles to one side
  3. Wear padded briefs specially made for bicycling
  4. Grab your balls in public to optimize the arrangement and visual (very common in Spain and Arab countries)
  5. Wear light, thin and tight trousers
  6. Roll down your briefs and wear them under your balls (optional)
  7. Wear a cockring
  8. Re-arrange when the bulge dissapears
  9. wear an adjustable leather cockstrap around the base of your scrotum and penis. This will tend to thrust your package forwards and away from your body, making it more ‘bulgy’

  10. Pump your cock and balls with a 2-stage vacuum pump acrylic cylinder 
  11. Use the best static postures to show off the package.  Either sitting down with the legs not too far apart (the thighs will tend to squeeze the package upwards, making it more prominent). Or standing with one leg crossed casually in front of the other, with the weight resting on the uncrossed leg. The thigh of the crossed leg will thrust the package forwards, and the tilted hip will further emphasize it. This can create quite an impressive bulge, with a nice ‘overhang’ effect

  12. Use a male size-enhancing Speedo bulge.  

We had fun with him wearing a cock extender out to dinner a few times! With some suitably tight trousers to show it off.

smallofshame:

Ideas For Small Penis Humiliation

  1. Tell one of your girlfriends. Let him know, but do not tell him which one.
  2. Watch porn with him and talk about how big every guy is.
  3. Wonder out loud how big his friends are.
  4. Give his penis an unflattering nickname e.g. shorty, tiny, clit, Pin dick, maggot cock, baby dick, pee wee

    or Minnie

  5. When your teasing excites him and he cums too early, make fun of that too.
  6. Make you google what women think of small penises, you will get a whole ton of results on forums and blogs that have women all laughing at and insulting men with little stubs.

  7. Hold her forefinger and thumb barely an inch apart she will hold them up to let you see how small the gap is and how small your penis is. Squinting and laughing with one eye closed, she will make you look at it and leave you in no uncertain terms that you fail to measure up

  8. Hints about how small you are  in as many conversation as possible.
  9. Measure it against small objects like baby carrots, biro lids, AAA batteries, chips, fries your pinkie or anything else that’s small and thin, she will make you hold it against your stub to illustrate just how small it actually is and then she will laugh her head off as these tiny objects dwarf that excuse for a cock.
  10. Knowing you have a small penis is one thing but to ACTUALLY know just how small? Making you hold a ruler against it and then marking the tiny between the edge and where your tip reached. 1 inch? 2? MAYBE 3? Whatever it is, you better believe you’ll get ruthlessly cock mocked for it
  11. Wiggle her pinkie finger at you is perhaps one of the most humiliating gestures any woman can make to a guy. Clenching her fist and smiling as she holds her hand close to her face and mockingly wiggles her pinkie at you. 
  12. Tie a ribbon around it, maybe a nice pink one for effect?
  13. Have you tell her how small it is, having to admit to this gorgeous woman just how small it is will be an incredibly cruel thing for her to force you to do. Which is, of course, why she will make you do it! 
  14. Rub ice water on it to make it even smaller while she laughs. To make it shrivel so it is even smaller and she can then ridicule you about it being even tinier and asking how that is even possible. 
  15. Compare your penis to her previous partners or lovers, no one likes to know how much bigger an exes dick was but you will be forced to hear in gruesome detail, inch by inch, just how much better and bigger they were than you. 
  16. Compare your penis to a dildo, holding up a 10-inch rubber dildo, she will show where your penis reaches and highlight exactly how much more cock there is on it than you have. Also, she will comment on how much thicker it is.
  17. Make you grow your pubic hair so it’s hidden. No woman deserves to have to see that….thing……..so she will make you grow your pubes out so it stays hidden. 
  18. Make you shave your pubes to expose its lack of size. Make you shave bald so it is highlighted just how small it is. Pubes can give a false sense of size so being naked and shaved will make it obvious and plainer to see just what size it actually is.
  19. Recall all the women who laughed or refused to sleep with you, the experience of a woman laughing at your penis or picking up her bag and leaving when she sees it is hard enough but instead of you pushing the image away, she will make you recount, in agonizing detail, each and every experience you had.

  20. Take a picture and post it online, Everyone who visits her blog should know what a tiny penis you have. The whole world has access to see that extra belly button you have.
  21. The toilet roll holder test – if it fits in a toilet roll then it’s not thick enough. If it doesn’t come out the other end, its not long enough. You and she both know you don’t even come close but she will still make you do it anyway just so she can laugh at it.
  22. Sit Down To Pee, real men stand up to pee. Little dick losers like you need to sit down because it can’t even stretch out of the zipper in your pants so the piss dribbles down your trousers so drop your pants and sit down like a good girl to pee. Extremely humiliating and very emasculating.

Some interesting ideas here, here’s some of my favourites, with maybe some tweaks or notes:

  1. Pretend to have told one of your girlfriends. Make up the fake conversation you had.
  2. Watch porn with him and talk about how big every guy is. Add ‘I wish you were that big’ Get him to find you porn of big cocks too!
  3. Wonder out loud how big his friends are. ‘Which of your friends has the biggest cock do you think?’
  4. Give his penis an unflattering nickname I like ‘dicklet’
  5. When your teasing excites him and he cums too early, make fun of that too.
  6. Make you google what women think of small penises, you will get a whole ton of results on forums and blogs that have women all laughing at and insulting men with little stubs. Interesting idea.
  7. Hold her forefinger and thumb barely an inch apart she will hold them up to let you see how small the gap is and how small your penis is. Squinting and laughing with one eye closed, she will make you look at it and leave you in no uncertain terms that you fail to measure up
  8. Hints about how small you are  in as many conversation as possible.
  9. Knowing you have a small penis is one thing but to ACTUALLY know just how small? Making you hold a ruler against it and then marking the tiny between the edge and where your tip reached. 
  10. Tie a ribbon around it, maybe a nice pink one for effect? This could be cute!
  11. Rub ice water on it to make it even smaller while she laughs. To make it shrivel so it is even smaller. A cold shower might be easier?
  12. Compare his penis to a dildo, holding up a 10-inch rubber dildo, she will show where your penis reaches and highlight exactly how much more cock there is on it than you have. Also, she will comment on how much thicker it is. I use the King Cock Dildo for this
  13. Make you shave your pubes to expose its lack of size. Make you shave bald so it is highlighted just how small it is. Pubes can give a false sense of size so being naked and shaved will make it obvious and plainer to see just what size it actually is. I like this one
  14. The toilet roll holder test – if it fits in a toilet roll then it’s not thick enough. If it doesn’t come out the other end, its not long enough. You and she both know you don’t even come close but she will still make you do it anyway just so she can laugh at it. This doesn’t work for us as he passes it! lol
  15. Cage it. Obviously. Size is the hottest excuse for it I find, as it’s just so unfair and unalterable!

Getting Him Ready For Brunch With My Girlfriends. I Hope They Ask About My Key. I Might Make Him Show Them In Restroom Before We Eat. Should Make For Good Food Conversation. 🔐❤️


I don’t normally reblog cock pics I’m sent but this is from a very exhibitionist kinky couple and loved the caption, so thank you!

So, what happened?!!! 😀

Check out their blog to see pretty much ALL of them 😛

Thank you for making my life better.

Hi. Just want to say that we love your blog and love to see two people like yourselves enjoying their lives and their lifestyle. Your blog has also opened my girlfriend’s eyes and encouraged her to try a few things she was a little reluctant to try.

I should explain that, like most men I think, I have an abundance of fantasies running rampant around my tiny brain. So many in fact that my girlfriend used to be turned off at just the mention of them. Also like most men, I used to masturbate to these fantasies while my girlfriend was out. Needless to say this lead to some heated words between us and very nearly broke up our relationship.

So what changed. Well chastity changed and you helped change it.

You see male chastity has always been a big fantasy for me, along with many others which I won’t go into here at this time. But my girlfriend thought the idea was just too perverted for words. She was always very vanilla sex for her was more functional than fun. Anyway she did enjoy me going down on her, or should I say, she eventually got to enjoy me going down on her once she lost her inhibitions about it.

Now I am a little submissive and the idea of being locked up and controlled by my girlfriend one of my main fantasies. She, not so much. However, after much talking, about three years worth of talking in fact, she finally agreed to read some of the blogs and look over some of the web sites and tumbler site. And no there was no nagging on my part. Lots of little hints yes, but no nagging. I wanted to serve her not drive her away.

She never said, not in so many words but, at first she was disgusted by the whole thing. But, and god bless her for sticking with it, she kept on reading and it was your site she read the most.

Now everyone is different and not everything on your site was to her taste. There are still a lot of things on your site that she finds a turn off. I know this from her cries of “Oh yuck” or “God that’s horrible”. But your writing about your own, and your other half’s, experience with male chastity interested her enough to agree to give it a try.

So after looking over various sites we bought a cheep steel chastity device for me to see how things would go. Honestly the first device was not great. It was not stainless steel and began to rust, which caused irritation of the old fella. However, my girlfriend did begin to warm to the idea of having me locked and under control. She also loved knowing that while she was out I was not going to be trawling the net and jerking off. Which was something I didn’t like. But then reality is harder to deal with than fantasy.

Since then our roles seem to be somewhat reversed. It is now my girlfriend that seems to spend lots of time on the computer, reading your blog and getting more, and much more devious ideas, while I spend an ever increasing time in chastity servicing her with my tongue. She has also discovered the joys of edging me and ruining my orgasms. Something she finds hugely entertaining, especially when she has me tied to the bed and a pair of her soiled panties in my mouth.

They do say we should be careful what we wish for as we might get it. Well I wished for it, I got it, and now I love it. Our life together has never been better and my sweet girlfriend is currently on her computer, most likely reading your site and looking for more devious ideas of things she might do to me. So thank you for that, I think.

All the best and keep up the good work. You have helped us more than you could ever know.

D.R. 


Dear D.R.,

Thank you so much, hearing all this means so much to me as it’s really why I started the blog in the first place. Well done you for handling it so patiently and being realistic about it, but most of all well done her!

It sounds like you’re on a wonderful journey and I’m so pleased I could play a little part in helping.

The plan with now having the keephimcaged.com domain is that I’ll set up something that’s really catered to women like her and not have so many of the things that made her cringe. In reality a lot of this blog, at least for the last year while we’ve been busy, is posting stuff I know would turn hubby on, so it’s not been very focused.

Even with the best of new kinky adventures, the experience will have peaks and troughs, and I think it’s really important to just be aware of that, and above all keep the intimacy going – date nights and weekends away together are so important for just giving you time to talk and remember why you’re exploring all this, to make the other one happy and keep things fresh and exciting.

I’ve got to the point where my friends are just sick of hearing how good things are with hubby and I. My one friend who knows about why hinted recently to them all she knew and when it became clear it was something sexual (she didn’t say any more) the rest of them stopped being interested, which is SO SAD! (Although one of them has approached me individually since to try and find out, which is fun. She is SUPER vanilla but even though I’ve told her it’s very kinky (her guess in response to that was blowjobs, I’m not even kidding!!!!) she’s still intrigued!).

Anyway, thank you, it’s so good to know it’s helping, and if your wife would like to email me for advice or just to chat (I don’t have chat turned on on Tumblr to avoid dick pics) then she can email me at keephimcaged@gmail.com any time (true for any other curious wives btw, always love to hear from you).

Love

Jane xxx

I absolutely love your blog. A few weeks ago, I was sharing sexy pictures from tumblr with my GF and didn’t notice the device on the male’s cock. She asked me about it and I proceeded to find out about male chastity. It clicked in a big way and I’m now locked up. Your blog has been a wonderful source of information and inspiration. Thank you for your time and effort. The Locktober series is fantastic! Keep up the good work! 

Thank you so much! That’s so encouraging to hear.

Jane xxx