Locktober 2018 #17

Toy time!

I hope you enjoyed your weekend! Pampering, teasing and then ideally some of you managed to make them cum in their cages! If you haven’t checked in on how horny that’s left them, it’s definitely worth a text. ‘How horny are you now baby? You realise this means I don’t ever have to take you out?’ LOL

Okay, so firstly, if you did make them cum in their cage, and left them in… well you may want to take them out. Then again, you may not! It’s totally up to you at this point. If you’ve been doing even half of the stuff so far you’ll be starting to get an idea of what excites you most, so just trust your instinct and decide if you prefer to leave them locked up or get them out to play with them tonight.

All of this chastity journey started with hubby and I looking at sex toys together last year, and him suggesting it might be fun to try a cock cage. So, we love sex toys.

We’ve had then in various forms from before we were married. He bought me my first vibrator as a birthday present (I know, what a romantic!), and well we’ve built up quite the collection!

Tonight there are three things we’re going to do, not all of them might apply.

Firstly, I’m going to encourage you to go through your toy collection, if you have some. Have a look at what you have and maybe pick out some you haven’t used for a while to try out!

Secondly I’d like you to do what we do, browse some sex toys online and see if there’s anything you should be getting.

Lastly I’ll give you some specific heads up on toys you might want to get for chastity play, for Locktober and beyond.

Mostly when we recommend toys we also add a link to Lovehoney (except some cages which we like but they don’t sell). We do benefit from an affiliate link with them but we’d recommend them regardless. They’re they only toy store we’ve ever used I think, apart from maybe some random Anne Summers purchases!

The main reason we recommend them is the amazing fact that they offer free returns, no questions asked, for a whole year after you buy from them! For us that’s a great thing as it means we can recommend stuff and if you don’t like it, well, no problem, just send it back! But also it means you can try things if you’re not sure about it, and just return it, used, yes used! To them if you don’t like it. They even include the returns label in the box!

Also,everything is very discreet, the packaging is plain, the credit card bill is just LH Trading or something like that, and while you can deal with them online, actually their customer service team are SO lovely.

Anyway, back to the plan!

Something Old

So have a look through your toys, relive some memories, and take some time to have some fun. It may be some new ones you want to use (I’m think our King Cock might be making an appearance!) or perhaps look back at the oldest ones you have. (Also, toys do die over time, if a toy’s got all manky, just throw it out and make some space!).

So perhaps you could pick a favourite toy each to play with, or maybe there’s some you’ve bought but never used, get them out now and, at the very least, TALK about them, why you got them in the first place, why you haven’t used them, and whether you should try them, now, or another time!

Something new

So, another fun activity is heading over to Lovehoney and just browsing different departments! As with all I recommend, try to do this in a completely positive way, no silly reactions to things your partner might be curious about. Laughing is great, pulling a face and looking disgusted, not so good! It’s just like fantasies, they are just curious, and wondering if you are curious too. So have an explore, laugh or scream at some of the crazy toys there are out there! Maybe even decide to try some! It’s so much easier when you realise you’re just trying them out and can send them back for free if you don’t like it.

Their special offers pages are always worth a look and they always have a Deal of the Day with an extra large discount.

The two for 25 is always a great place to bag a bargain in my experience, and the 3 for 10 deal are lots of cheap fun things, but handy for getting over the free delivery threshold!

Something borrowed, something blue?

Hmm,well maybe not, although the strap on I recommend is purple… And that’s what this section is. Some of the specific toys we’ve found most helpful for our chastity play together. Our personal recommendations and ones that you’d benefit from having if you’re enjoying this journey and are willing to try being a bit kinkier!

Lube

Lube, you need lube. If you don’t think you do, you’re wrong!

Lube for toys, especially butt plugs and big dildos, sure but we use by far the most for putting on him when edging him, and also for lubricating the cage.

Lovehoney’s Lube Selection

Best lube for handjobs and edging – Silicon Lubes (they are crazy slippery and last for ages

Silicon lubes are also best for applying to your age as they don’t react if it’s a plastic one and they stay slippery all night or all day.

Do NOT use water based lubes for these purposes, they just dry out and go sticky! Water based lubes are only really good for dildos/strap ons etc where they will be going in the woman as her natural lubrication keeps them from going sticky. Oh and for blowjobs, as they can be flavoured.

Vibrators

You either want small and powerful – ideally rechargable like these great Rocks Off brand ones.

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Rocks Off Ignition

Or you want to go big and SUPER powerful, as with these wand type mains powered vibes. Don’t buy the classic Hitachi Wand though, it only has two, way too strong, power levels, try one of these instead.

Finally our most expensive, but very cool, vibrator is the WeVibe. This is just for me, and is a clever shape that goes on my clitoris and my g-spot at the same time. You can use it alone or during love making to add pressure and vibrations to your g-spot (feels amazing). But, the best feature… is it’s remote controlled, from ANYWHERE! So hubby can use the phone app to turn it on and off and change the patterns.

To say it’s useful for phone sex is something of an understatement. A friend told me they are all the rage in the armed forces for tours of duty apart, to the extent they tell each other they better get a We-vibe if they want to keep their woman!!!! lol

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The We-Vibe 4 with remote control and phone App!!!

Butt plugs

We both like using these, but most designs are rubbish and painful to wear! Our favourite by far are these RollPlay ones with a ball inside that silently rolls around and keeps you aware you’re wearing it.

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We haven’t dared try the large, medium and small do us fine!

For chastity play, they help keep him aroused and act like a catalyst for horniness in our experience.

He likes to make me wear them out to dinners so we have the shared secret of being naughty together. I have yet to make him wear one to a dinner but now I think of it…

Specific plugs to massage or stimulate the prostate are also interesting and in combination with a vibrator, as some of you may have found last night, can produce explosive results!

Restraints

Covered this before in Locktober but under the bed restraints make light bondage an instant option. Nice comfy velcro strap make it a breeze to get either of us in or out of them, and tucked away out of sight with no hassle. A permanent fixture on our bed!

Strap ons

I’ve written at length about Why I Love our Strap-on – but in short, it’s a brilliant toy to combine with him being caged. He can wear it above his caged cock and so you can still have, much extended, love making sessions but he’s super horny and doesn’t cum, leave a mess in your or run out of libido until you are well and truly done.

I know, it sounds crazy kinky but this is so damn hot.

And of course, for the brave, the woman can wear it and use it on him for ‘pegging’. We’ll talk about this more but, if he’s really into chastity play already, it’s very, very VERY likely he’d at least gets turned on by the idea.

I wasn’t at all eager when he brought it up at first but actually, unlike all the silly captions, it can be very sensual indeed, and it’s genuinely how men are wired. They have a prostate gland that means they can cum from anal. Us women don’t! Seems a waste to not even try it…

The dildo that comes with the above recommended strap on is PERFECT for pegging if you are ever going to try it.

Leaving the best to last

Now my favourite toy, well, at least tied with my vibrators, is our King Cock Extra Girthy Dildo. It’s big, it’s really big, not crazy big but, yeah… And it looks and feels AMAZING.

I was scared the first time we opened this, but when I’m relaxed and ready, and it’s lubed, whether I used it, or he does, or he puts it on our strap on (because it is designed to easily go onto the one we recommended above) – it is mind blowing.

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Just trust me on this, you want to get one.

I hope that’s been useful and not JUST sounded like some big sales pitch. Please feel free to visit Lovehoney or your favourite store directly if you object to us using affiliate links, we don’t make much off it but it all helps me justify the time I spend on this blog to hubby!

Either way, we live in a wonderful age where we have all these fun toys to enhance our sex life. Wherever you are with your exploration, I hope we have encouraged you to go a little further and have more fun together!

Jane xxx

Hi. Have you planning to make Locktober againd this year?. I talk to my Wife, and we are going to try it. But i have a doubt about cleaning problems. The device it’s a CB6000S and after 3 days of use, i need to remove it for deep cleaning because it starts to smell bad. Do you consider it’s “legal” to remove the device every 3 or 4 day. Or it’s againt the spirit of LOCKtober?

I absolutely am, working hard on it this week. Well done for talking to her about it.

The plastic ones do get smelly, I don’t think there’s a good way of cleaning thoroughly as far as I can see, and it being smelly is a huge turn off, so yes absolutely. 

Your best bet is to go for a nice metal one, you can find them easily on Amazon now

Amazon Chastity Device selection

And have a look at our reviews, which are a bit out of date now, we should add some more! Although the ones we recommend are still our favourites.

http://www.keephimcaged.com/cock-cage-reviews

But otherwise, no, it’s not just ‘legal’ it’s necessary to keep it nice and clean and smelling nice. Hubby won’t even get an edge unless he’s showered first and either given it a good soap and spray out or taken it off just before he showers and then comes straight to me.

Jane xxx

Hi Jane, I’ve had two ‘stainless’ metal cages so far and although the overall quality of both was good, still it seems they get a bit rusty after a while. I was wondering if you experience the same with the tight squeeze or the arc. I’m looking for a second cage that is stainless as I know that my wife is a bit worried about the rust. Thanks, Shavvy

We really haven’t had much of a problem with rust, although I doubt it’s very problematic. But I guess it does indicate it’s not good quality steel.

Have a look at our recommended cages page, the company we recommend (Toys for naughty boys) there are really good and we’ve loved all the stuff from there – and they offer a good guarantee if you did have problems.

But we use the Arc and Tight Squeeze a lot and not rust at all that hubby’s told me about anyway.

Black Friday just got 25% blacker(?) at Lovehoney

female-orgasm-denial:

So I posted about the quite impressive Black Friday discounts that our favourite sex toy resellers, Lovehoney were offering. It just got even better.

You can now get an extra 25% off if you spend £25 (UK) or $100 (US). Yeah, I know, we get a better deal here in Britland, but have you seen the price of our gas? Suck it up.

Anyway, to get the extra discount:

  1. Go to Lovehoney’s Offer Code Page
  2. Enter in 25OFF (US) or 25OFF25 (UK)
  3. Buy great stuff in the Black Friday deals
  4. Wait in eager anticipation for it to arrive
  5. Blow your mind (if it doesn’t, you get a year to send it back, neat!)

Deals change three times a day but from the current crop this vibrating remote control butt plug looks like fun:

It’ll obviously work great slid in your pussy too (don’t switch holes without giving it a proper clean, obvs) . But that’s down to $23 which seems like a great deal. Or it’s down to £17.99 on the UK site

Besides the fact it vibrates and is remote controlled, this ‘anchor’ shape of butt plug is far and away the best in my experience. Seriously, I don’t know who designs these things but most butt plugs just don’t actually fit well where they’re meant to go! This type does for most in my experience, and the fact it’s also beautifully shaped to slide in your pussy and vibrate inside and all over your labia makes it look like a lot of fun. Great reviews too.

Guess what button he just clicked…

lol that last picture!!!

It’s Black Friday for Sex Toys too!

female-orgasm-denial:

I was wondering when this would happen, and it has. Lovehoney’s got on the Black Friday bandwagon, hurrah.

As it says below, the deals change three times a day. I’ll keep an eye out for particularly good ones but I thought you might like to know about it too. Here’s a banner I blatantly stole from their email to make me look professional.

Find out what their latest deals are

Right now the US site has my favourite rechargeable bullet vibe reduced from $40 to $27.99, which is a bargain.

The Rocks Off Ignition Rechargeable Bullet Vibe

You can read more about it on our recommended sex toys page

If you find a good deal post it in the notes so people see it!

There’s also an additional 20% off if you buy two vibes (get a wand, a WAND I tell you – $40 off atm) and that should stack with Black Friday prices (US and UK only, maybe?)

Plus 20% off for buying two bondage items too, but it’s not a huge range included. I guess that might change every day? Dunno. Right now the male crotchless latex open leotard is included… 

…and I was wondering what to wear for Christmas with the in-laws

Lovehoney Black Friday Deals – don’t miss out

I was just going to post about this but I’ll steal this one instead as I’m loving the leotard, lol

I had a quick browse and the 3 inch extender that we really like is currently half price (and it’s the one that vibrates, fancy!!!) £35 reduced to £17.50 but that might end at 6pm I guess?

Penis Extenders at Lovehoney

And in general they’ve got a 25% off if you buy two extension or enlarging toys, which could be useful!! lol

‘I know it aches, but I like big cocks and this makes it bigger, doesn’t it! Yes it’ll get smaller when we take it off so we’ll just leave it in there for now, I like how it looks. It doesn’t matter you can’t touch it, you weren’t going to cum anyway.’

Regarding the leotard though, no thanks BUT on our friend Emma’s advice we did buy a pair of cut out briefs:

and they honestly look so hot with him in a cage too. it just sticks out so perfectly when caged through the hole. It’s the only male ‘sexy undies’ that I’ve ever found remotely erotic. They’re in the 20% off bondage sale mentioned above.

If hubby ever has cause to wear a kilt he is TOTALLY wearing these underneath!

Locktober 2017 – Day 22

So the first script I wrote was about the idea of using a penis extender. Now if you happen to have one of those instead of a strap on then you can still find that version, here

If you haven’t invested in a strap on or penis extender then tonight’s just freestyle for you – maybe do something again from the last three weeks you enjoyed most, or just do what you fancy!

The idea with this is mostly just to read it and get some inspiration on the kinds of things you can do and say, rather than just acting it out. 

Full Lockdown

For those in full lockdown, or any of you that fancy it, the extenders can often just fit onto his caged cock, perfect!

Have fun!


“So sweetheart, I know you’ve been waiting for your special present I promised for our anniversary. The box is heavy, isn’t it. Open it, I’m so excited!

"Yes, it’s a penis extension sleeve! I know, the seal’s broken on the box, there’s a story behind that, I’ll explain in a… no, I haven’t used it without you! You’re so paranoid! Now let me tie you up and we’ll get started!

"It’s not huge, darling. From what I read it’s really quite normal. And honestly compared to all those posts you show me on Tumblr, it’s small if anything. Just, not compared to, you, you know?

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"No don’t get upset, it’s just a toy baby, I like your cock, I really do, but ever since you showed me those pictures I keep imagining what it would feel like to have something, bigger. I kind of wonder, you know, if… it might even make me cum?

"Yes honey, I know you make me cum, and I love that, but you don’t when we actually have sex, do you? You have to use your fingers, or our vibe or, well now more than ever, your tongue. But I keep wondering, maybe it’s not me… maybe I just need something bigger than your little cock.

"Sweetie, it’s just a toy! If you held it in your hand you’d be okay. But this one fits over your cock, it’s great. It leaves your hands free for other things. Or like now, you don’t even need them! 

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"No, I don’t have to unlock you, look at this, see, it fits right over your caged cock, isn’t that amazing! God baby, look how big it is! It’s like it’s yours now! You always wanted to be this big didn’t you! How’s it feel to look down and see that beautiful big cock between your legs? Isn’t it the perfect gift, for us both!

"Is it weird… if I go down and suck on it honey, is that okay? Oh god darling, look, I have to stretch my mouth open to even ummmpfffhhh. Ugrghff mmmpffh ffo uud.

"Oh my god, did you see that? I just slid it down my throat! I think the problem before was yours didn’t really, get to my throat darling! As soon as I got it past the back of my mouth I almost didn’t need to gag at all! Wow, now I feel better about it! I love this thing! Umm, is it, okay if? Oh of course it is, I want it in me baby, okay? You just lie back and watch – hah, you can’t do much else right now can you darling!

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"Oh fuck, it’s so big! Oh my god, can you see it stretching me! Oh that’s so intense. I, oh my god, this is AMAZING, and that’s just the tip! I, I… oh my God, it’s reached my g-spot, oh fuck I think, hold on. Oh shit I nearly came! I can’t believe it! Could you see how close that was, I’m shaking already! Ssshh, be quiet honey, I need to concentrate.

"Oh fuck oh fuuuuuck! I’ve never had anything this deep, it’s incredible. Is there more, can you see baby? Oh my god, I can feel it sliding past my cervix I think. You never even reached that. That’s.. kind of weird but oh, I think I like it and yes, I can feel it even deeper, oh my god it’s.. I can’t even describe it. Look how deep it is! Oh I have to fuck it now, help me baby, fuck me! Yes, oh my god, oh my GOD. Fuck me, harder, yes I feel, oh shit, it feels so good, don’t stop, don’t stop, don’t…

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"OH FUCK YES I’M CUMMING ON YOUR HUGE COCK BABY! Fuck me, fuck me, yes yes yes yeeeeees! I’m still cumming, I can’t hold it in, I’m, oh shit I’m going to pee I’m… oh my god I’m squirting! It feels so good, keep fucking me, don’t stop! Don’t ever stop!

"Oh baby that… that was the most incredible thing I’ve ever felt! It’s okay baby, I’m crying because I’m happy. I just never knew anything could feel that good. Mmmm thank you darling, just hold me, okay? I love you so much.

"Oh it feels so big in me, just.. oh yes, just move it like that again. Are you horny baby, is your dick all squashed up in the cage. Fuck me with it, yes oh my god, don’t stop, I’m going to cum again, oh yes, yes, YES!

"Holy shit darling, I just came twice, and you haven’t even touched my clit! Can you believe it? This is incredible. Can we just stay like this all night?’

"Umm, no I wasn’t going to unlock you, actually, I have a little confession. I’m afraid it’s a bit more complicated now. I told you there was a bit of a story didn’t I? I actually got it from Emma. No silly, she hadn’t used it! That would be disgusting. No she bought it for Alan but he was much too big to fit in it, so she was going to throw it out but I said it would fit you perfectly. Yes, I did say that! So she knows you’re not very big, it’s nothing to be ashamed about. All my friends know already, what do you think girls talk about when you’re not around?

"Anyway, when Emma gave me the penis extender, I was so delighted I asked if there was anything she wanted in return. She asked for your key! I know, I was surprised too! But really I think she was doing me a favour, I’d told her how hard I found it not to give in when you’re all desperate like this. Of course she knows about the cage, she’s my best friend! Now if you want to cum you’ll need to ask her for it in advance.

"Sorry baby, don’t be cross. I was a bit tipsy at the time. I probably shouldn’t have told her she should make you work hard for it should I? She thought that was very funny. What really shocked me was when I mentioned I’d want it back sometimes, and she told me I’d have to work for it too! Who would have thought tame little Emma could get so dominant!”

“Anyway, not to worry, now we have this new cock for you, there’s not really much reason to let you out any more!’

"I think I’m ready honey. Let’s do it again…” 

Photo source:  http://filthyamateurcouple.tumblr.com/ and https://instafetish.tumblr.com/

If you’re curious, yes we use one sometimes… it’s the Mega Mighty 3 Extra Inches Extender from Lovehoney (although we’ve never used it over a cage, we use our strap on for that) and it’s the first picture featured above.

Locktober 2017 – Day 17

Toy time!

I hope you enjoyed your weekend! Pampering, teasing and then ideally some of you managed to make them cum in their cages! If you haven’t checked in on how horny that’s left them, it’s definitely worth a text. ‘How horny are you now baby? You realise this means I don’t ever have to take you out?’ LOL

Okay, so firstly, if you did make them cum in their cage, and left them in… well you may want to take them out. Then again, you may not! It’s totally up to you at this point. If you’ve been doing even half of the stuff so far you’ll be starting to get an idea of what excites you most, so just trust your instinct and decide if you prefer to leave them locked up or get them out to play with them tonight.

All of this chastity journey started with hubby and I looking at sex toys together last year, and him suggesting it might be fun to try a cock cage. So, we love sex toys.

We’ve had then in various forms from before we were married. He bought me my first vibrator as a birthday present (I know, what a romantic!), and well we’ve built up quite the collection!

Tonight there are three things we’re going to do, not all of them might apply.

Firstly, I’m going to encourage you to go through your toy collection, if you have some. Have a look at what you have and maybe pick out some you haven’t used for a while to try out!

Secondly I’d like you to do what we do, browse some sex toys online and see if there’s anything you should be getting.

Lastly I’ll give you some specific heads up on toys you might want to get for chastity play, for Locktober and beyond.

Mostly when we recommend toys we also add a link to Lovehoney (except some cages which we like but they don’t sell). We do benefit from an affiliate link with them but we’d recommend them regardless. They’re they only toy store we’ve ever used I think, apart from maybe some random Anne Summers purchases!

The main reason we recommend them is the amazing fact that they offer free returns, no questions asked, for a whole year after you buy from them! For us that’s a great thing as it means we can recommend stuff and if you don’t like it, well, no problem, just send it back! But also it means you can try things if you’re not sure about it, and just return it, used, yes used! To them if you don’t like it. They even include the returns label in the box!

Also,everything is very discreet, the packaging is plain, the credit card bill is just LH Trading or something like that, and while you can deal with them online, actually their customer service team are SO lovely.

Anyway, back to the plan!

Something Old

So have a look through your toys, relive some memories, and take some time to have some fun. It may be some new ones you want to use (I’m think our King Cock might be making an appearance!) or perhaps look back at the oldest ones you have. (Also, toys do die over time, if a toy’s got all manky, just throw it out and make some space!).

So perhaps you could pick a favourite toy each to play with, or maybe there’s some you’ve bought but never used, get them out now and, at the very least, TALK about them, why you got them in the first place, why you haven’t used them, and whether you should try them, now, or another time!

Something new

So, another fun activity is heading over to Lovehoney and just browsing different departments! As with all I recommend, try to do this in a completely positive way, no silly reactions to things your partner might be curious about. Laughing is great, pulling a face and looking disgusted, not so good! It’s just like fantasies, they are just curious, and wondering if you are curious too. So have an explore, laugh or scream at some of the crazy toys there are out there! Maybe even decide to try some! It’s so much easier when you realise you’re just trying them out and can send them back for free if you don’t like it.

Their special offers pages are always worth a look and they always have a Deal of the Day with an extra large discount.

The two for 25 is always a great place to bag a bargain in my experience, and the 3 for 10 deal are lots of cheap fun things, but handy for getting over the free delivery threshold!

Something borrowed, something blue?

Hmm,well maybe not, although the strap on I recommend is purple… And that’s what this section is. Some of the specific toys we’ve found most helpful for our chastity play together. Our personal recommendations and ones that you’d benefit from having if you’re enjoying this journey and are willing to try being a bit kinkier!

Lube

Lube, you need lube. If you don’t think you do, you’re wrong!

Lube for toys, especially butt plugs and big dildos, sure but we use by far the most for putting on him when edging him, and also for lubricating the cage.

Lovehoney’s Lube Selection

Best lube for handjobs and edging – Silicon Lubes (they are crazy slippery and last for ages

Silicon lubes are also best for applying to your age as they don’t react if it’s a plastic one and they stay slippery all night or all day.

Do NOT use water based lubes for these purposes, they just dry out and go sticky! Water based lubes are only really good for dildos/strap ons etc where they will be going in the woman as her natural lubrication keeps them from going sticky. Oh and for blowjobs, as they can be flavoured.

Vibrators

You either want small and powerful – ideally rechargable like these great Rocks Off brand ones.

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Rocks Off Ignition

Or you want to go big and SUPER powerful, as with these wand type mains powered vibes. Don’t buy the classic Hitachi Wand though, it only has two, way too strong, power levels, try one of these instead.

Finally our most expensive, but very cool, vibrator is the WeVibe. This is just for me, and is a clever shape that goes on my clitoris and my g-spot at the same time. You can use it alone or during love making to add pressure and vibrations to your g-spot (feels amazing). But, the best feature… is it’s remote controlled, from ANYWHERE! So hubby can use the phone app to turn it on and off and change the patterns.

To say it’s useful for phone sex is something of an understatement. A friend told me they are all the rage in the armed forces for tours of duty apart, to the extent they tell each other they better get a We-vibe if they want to keep their woman!!!! lol

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The We-Vibe 4 with remote control and phone App!!!

Butt plugs

We both like using these, but most designs are rubbish and painful to wear! Our favourite by far are these RollPlay ones with a ball inside that silently rolls around and keeps you aware you’re wearing it.

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We haven’t dared try the large, medium and small do us fine!

For chastity play, they help keep him aroused and act like a catalyst for horniness in our experience.

He likes to make me wear them out to dinners so we have the shared secret of being naughty together. I have yet to make him wear one to a dinner but now I think of it…

Specific plugs to massage or stimulate the prostate are also interesting and in combination with a vibrator, as some of you may have found last night, can produce explosive results!

Restraints

Covered this before in Locktober but under the bed restraints make light bondage an instant option. Nice comfy velcro strap make it a breeze to get either of us in or out of them, and tucked away out of sight with no hassle. A permanent fixture on our bed!

Strap ons

I’ve written at length about Why I Love our Strap-on – but in short, it’s a brilliant toy to combine with him being caged. He can wear it above his caged cock and so you can still have, much extended, love making sessions but he’s super horny and doesn’t cum, leave a mess in your or run out of libido until you are well and truly done.

I know, it sounds crazy kinky but this is so damn hot.

And of course, for the brave, the woman can wear it and use it on him for ‘pegging’. We’ll talk about this more but, if he’s really into chastity play already, it’s very, very VERY likely he’d at least gets turned on by the idea.

I wasn’t at all eager when he brought it up at first but actually, unlike all the silly captions, it can be very sensual indeed, and it’s genuinely how men are wired. They have a prostate gland that means they can cum from anal. Us women don’t! Seems a waste to not even try it…

The dildo that comes with the above recommended strap on is PERFECT for pegging if you are ever going to try it.

Leaving the best to last

Now my favourite toy, well, at least tied with my vibrators, is our King Cock Extra Girthy Dildo. It’s big, it’s really big, not crazy big but, yeah… And it looks and feels AMAZING.

I was scared the first time we opened this, but when I’m relaxed and ready, and it’s lubed, whether I used it, or he does, or he puts it on our strap on (because it is designed to easily go onto the one we recommended above) – it is mind blowing.

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Just trust me on this, you want to get one.

I hope that’s been useful and not JUST sounded like some big sales pitch. Please feel free to visit Lovehoney or your favourite store directly if you object to us using affiliate links, we don’t make much off it but it all helps me justify the time I spend on this blog to hubby!

Either way, we live in a wonderful age where we have all these fun toys to enhance our sex life. Wherever you are with your exploration, I hope we have encouraged you to go a little further and have more fun together!

Jane xxx

Does your hubby enjoy anal play (receiving end)? I’m considering surprising my hubby with a butt plug, but I’m not sure how it’ll go while he’s caged.

It goes really well! Unlike us, men actually have the prostate up there and so with some practise, most of them can even cum from the right stimulation up their bum! 

You have to get one that fits well though. Not too thin or it feels like it’s slipping out all the time.

We have a whole variety but here’s a link to our favourite ones on Lovehoney:

Rollplay Butt Plug

They have a 2 for $30 or 2 for £15 on them at the moment so maybe use that to get a couple and try them out.

Remember they definitely take time to get used to. Use lots of lube, don’t wear them for too long.

Hubby introduced me to them early on in our marriage and honestly I didn’t like them at first, but after a while I came to LOVE wearing them, and even now, if I’m feeling a bit naughty, just put one in and wander around with it secretly in me! The one above had a ball that silently rolls around inside when you move. So much fun!

Which gives me an idea, why not REALLY surprise him, and get one each!

But yes, we love them. I say for him it acts like a fast forward on his horniness, being caged AND having his prostrate rubbed all day makes him go crazy! yum yum!

Just got this amazing offer through from Lovehoney (only US I think)

Free Couples Sex Toy Kit

A vibrator, plug, vibrating cock ring, bondage tape, rope, paddle and blindfold was pretty damn good value for $70 but to get all that free is CRAZY.

These kind of things tend to run out of stock fast so don’t miss out (and remember you get a year to return anything for a full refund so you can’t really go wrong…)

So we recently started with silicon plugs (roll play from love honey) because the metal ones got too uncomfortable after some time. But now we got the problem that the silicon ones “smell” after wearing it for a while, even washing it with soap and water doesn’t help. Do you have any tips what to do?

I do! We had the same issue and hubby found the answer. 

What happens is good quality silicone toys actually leak a little silicone oil – it’s part of why they feel so smooth, but that can pick up scents. Water and soap don’t affect the silicone oil, it’s waterproof – which is why it’s such a great lube, BUT what does affect it is acetone! Yep, some simple acetone nail polish remover dabbed on a wipe and rubbed over the toy takes the smell right away! Give it a wash with water afterwards and they are good as new!

The sex toy cleaner sprays also work reasonably well but I’ve found the nail polish works best for this particular use.