Locktober 2018 #31

Trick or Treat?

Well, my goodness, we finally got there!

I hope you’ve enjoyed Locktober, however much you’ve participated! Whether you’ve stuck to the whole thing (impressive!) or just enjoyed reading it.

Today’s the big climax, well, you hope anyway… as the title of this post suggests, maybe it won’t be all that easy!

I’ve been saving one of my previous scripts that I thought would adapt well for today! As I’ve said with these before, you could enjoy reading it to him and acting it out, or just read it yourself as some inspiration of how you could play things and then improvise yourself.


Jane xxx

Oh honey are you excited about cumming later? A whole month, you’ve done so well! We counted the hours when we started this, now I can’t be quite sure how many weeks it is since you last came.

I do love this cage, don’t you? Look how cute your little cock is in there. I didn’t even think I’d like it when you first suggested it, but, honestly, I love having you in there now.

Mmmm, feel how full your balls are, don’t you love that? Is it nice when I squeeze them like this? Can you imagine all that thicky gooey cum spurting out? Won’t that feel amazing?

I’m so proud of you baby, you’ve gone so long, held off so many times. Hasn’t it been wonderful?

Look how sensitive your body is now. Oh I love the noises you make when I tease you. Does this feel good on your nipple, how about if I… lick the other one at the same time? Mmmmm.

Oh no baby? What’s wrong? Oh dear is your cock trying to get hard? Is it mean if I do this while you’re still all caged up? Look at your cock straining at the cage. Poor little thing.

Do you want me to let you out? I will soon baby. It won’t be long now, but… not just yet. Is that okay? It turns me on so much. Feel, feel how wet I am. Mmmm, good boy, rub me while I squeeze your aching balls. Oh yes, rub me harder baby. Maybe one last orgasm before you have yours.

You’ve got so good at this. How many times do you think I’ve cum since you last did?

I know, so many! And so many different ways. But which do you think I like best baby? I’m sure you can guess. No… don’t say, show me.

Mmmm you tease, I love it when you kiss there but… use your mouth. I want you to suck on my clit till I cum. Oh god, that feels so fucking good. You’ve got SO good at this. Yes that’s it, do that thing you… oh fuck yes, you feel amazing.

Honestly honey, when you do this it just makes me want to keep you locked up forever. You never want to suck and lick me as much when I let you out. Do you like it, is your cock trying to get hard as you taste me? Oh god yes, go on, stick your tongue right in me. Mmmm so good, and back to my clit now, get me closer.

I love grabbing your hair like this, pushing you into me. Oh I just want to fuck your face. Oh push your fingers in me, mmmmm yes. Mmmm, you keep doing that, I’m just going to browse the blog again. Don’t make me cum, not yet, not till I tell you.

Oh honey is your tongue finally getting tired? I’m so close now. I love this feeling. I guess it’s how you feel all the time now. Only I get to cum, and you don’t. Well, apart from today of course!

Mmmm, you know, when I’m this close, I think really naughty things… Sometimes, I think about just keeping you in the cage all the time, until you go crazy. Can you imagine how horny you’d get, even worse than now! I’d have to find other ways to empty those swollen balls occasionally.

I even… I even imagine getting you pierced. Buying you one of those cages that you can never take off without the key. That you’d know there was no way to cheat. Wouldn’t that be intense? We’d put one of those rings through the end of your cock, our little secret. I wonder how that would feel inside me?

Right now though, I’ve got another naughty thought. Is your tongue too tired to… lick down lower? Hah, no, I didn’t think it would be. You love it don’t you! Lick my bottom, darling, mmmmm. Oh I love it. I can’t believe it but I love it. Can you believe your good little wife loves you licking her bottom? Oh rub my clit at the same time, wait, let me turn over. You can put the vibe on my clit. No, no keep it low, I don’t want to cum, not yet.

Oh fuck, that’s it, lick me harder, oh fuck I love it. Look what a slut you’ve turned me into! Your slut, do you like that baby? You like it that your wife loves keeping your dick locked up while you lick her arsehole? Oh that’s it, rub me, press harder, make me cum with your tongue there.

Oh my god, yes, yes. Keep doing that, make me cum, make me cum! Mmmmmmmmm, yes, so good! Oh fuck yes!

Okay, just let me turn back. Wow baby, you’ve been down there a long time. But, I’m not done yet, is that okay, I want to cum again. Suck my clit again darling. Oh god yes, mmmm, have you got the lube? Put some on your finger… I’m still feeling naughty. You know what to do with it, yes, keep your mouth there, suck and lick me, and, oh yes, slide it in. Oh this is so good. I should never let you cum when it makes you want to do this so much! Does it get you hard, sticking your finger in my… oh yes, make me cum, make me cum now!

Wow, good boy! That was wonderful! Oh no, you’re still in your cage aren’t you! Sorry baby, I kinda forgot. Now you clean yourself up while I get the key.

No honey, of course I didn’t mean it when I said I should never let you cum. You know it’s just a fantasy. Was it hot to hear it? Mmmm your turn now baby. Lie back and let me put those restraints on you, it always makes it feel a bit kinkier doesn’t it. My big strong man all at my mercy. Yummy!

There we go, all done! Time to sleep now I think!

What? You don’t want me to just leave you like this, are you sure? Ha I’m only teasing honey, that would be mean, even for me! Now, here we go, let’s get that nasty cage off you. What do you say?

You’re welcome. Is that better? It must feel good to be out. Oh look it’s left marks on you, that must have been painful! Is it bad that’s kind of hot?

I thought you might be harder after all that? Maybe your cock doesn’t really want to cum? No? Shall I try anyway? Okay.

Now let me get some lube, lots today I think. Mmmm that’s it, I’ll pour it all over. Oh look baby you’re throbbing. Let me see if I can help with that. Is that nice, do you like it slow or… fast. Oh you like fast huh? Oh look how hard you’re getting now, that’s so hot. It must feel so good after being in that cage so much. Are you balls aching, darling? Can you imagine how good it’s going to feel for me to empty them? Does that feel good?

No, no cumming yet, not without permission, or you know what will happen, don’t you?

Yes I’ll ruin it, I’ll just let it all dribble out and stop rubbing, so you don’t cum yet, is that clear?

Mmmm, can you still taste me on your lips? Just thinking about you down there makes me want another orgasm! Where’s that vibe. Mmmm, I love squeezing your cock while I vibe myself. Oh I’m close already. Fuck I love cumming when you’re denied.

Oh god, yes, I’m right on the edge… I want, I want you to call me things. Tell me what a bitch I am for keeping you so horny and desperate.

Oh I love it. Say it again, call me a fucking bitch. Mmmm, oh poor baby, so desperate. I love it!

What would you do, what would you do to me right now if I was tied down, huh? Yeah? Would you fuck me hard with that hard cock? Would you empty your balls deep in me?

Oh yes, tell me how much you love this. Tell me how much you love me as I cum, oh yes, I’m cumming!

Mmmmm, that was another good one! You love it when I cum, don’t you.

Now maybe it’s your turn at last… do you want my hand, or my mouth, darling?

Hah, I knew you’d say that. No talking now, I’m going to tease you just a little more.

Mmmm, did you like that? I think it’s time now, are you ready to cum? I want you in me, but you must hold off, not till I say, okay? Let me just climb on… oh look how easily you slide in me, I’m so wet!

Is that what you wanted, to bury yourself in me? No, stay still. I’m in charge. Mmm, we don’t do this as much as we should. You feel so good in me. I can just imagine your balls filling me up. Are they aching baby, do you want to spurt all your cum in me?

Oh does that feel good, just sliding inside? Are you close baby?


I… I have something I wanted to ask. It’s just, I love you being this horny. Your balls all full of cum turns me on so much. I adore how much you want me, how you desire me.

And… I don’t want to lose that, even a little bit.

I know you have earned your cum, and that’s so good. And if you want that, okay. But, you’d make me so happy if you didn’t.

I know darling, I know how much you want to cum. But THAT is what I love so much. It would mean so much to me if you gave it up. Of course you can cum if you want, but it’d be so hot to deny you again.

Don’t you love being denied, being so horny for me. Do you really want to lose that for just a few seconds of pleasure?

Haven’t you loved Locktober? All the things we’ve done?

I tell you what, you can choose… you have three options

Firstly if you choose to cum, I’m going to have to lock you up again. I want you this horny again, and I want to keep you that way.

Honestly, I want it for longer than a month… Oh yes, I’ll let you out sometimes, the cage won’t be the focus – NOvember, NO cumming, that’s how it’ll be.

If you choose to cum tonight, it’ll be the last time till, hmm, until Christmas. Yes that sounds about right. What’s that, seven, eight weeks?

NO ruins either, nope, I want you completely desperate and your balls aching.

If you DO even ruin it, you’ll be locked up with NO release for two weeks as a punishment each time. That’ll help you focus on me and my needs, won’t it darling?

Secondly of course you could have a ruin as your reward tonight, that’d be hot. Giving up the orgasm you have earnt just to please me. It’d have to be special though, not just a simple ruin. Maybe into my mouth, or my pussy, and then you take it all.

But you’re still getting a release… so you’ll be locked up without any release for two weeks, at least. I need a bit of a break from all this high intensity work, so you stay locked, and I get off as I want.

Then of course darling, you can really impress me with the third option. You ask me not to be allowed to cum tonight at all. That would be so hot. After all this time giving up your orgasm for longer.

No, I don’t know how long for. I don’t want you to even think about it.Maybe it’ll just be tonight. But I doubt it, the idea of making you go even longer really turns me on. What will you be like in another week? Another month? Maybe..maybe I’ll just decide you’re better off locked up.

Oh baby, did you just throb inside me? Is that a hot fantasy? That I lock your cock up and never let it out. You’re so bad! Good thing it’s not your decision I guess. It’ll be mine. When… if you get out or get to cum next.

Can you handle that baby, can you do that for me? Shush, don’t say it yet, think about it, let me lean in close, you can whisper your answer. What will it be darling, tell me, I’ll do it, is it ‘make me cum’, ‘ruin me’ or ‘deny me’?

You’re sure?

If he picked to cum:

Oh I love you need to cum that much… are you going to pump it inside me baby? You better enjoy it, it’ll be the last time you do for a long, long time! I hope it’s worth it, I’m going to keep you so horny and attentive.

If he picks a ruin:

Halfway house huh, are you close baby, Do you want my mouth or my pussy? Open up, I can’t wait for you to taste it…

If he chooses not to cum:

Oh I love you picked that, so hot. Good boy!

Can you feel me sliding off you? That’s it for tonight. I wonder how long it will be till you feel that again…

You just stay there and relax. I know how horny you are baby, I’m going to make sure you’re safely caged up before I undo you, it wouldn’t be fair otherwise. Let’s just cuddle while you get soft again. Enjoy the freedom darling. Once I put that cage back on, I have no idea when I’ll next be taking it off.

I love you so much.


I’d love to know how you got on with Locktober, and all these ideas. I hope you’ve enjoyed it.

I am still working on a book version of all these ideas and more so if you think that’ll be a useful way to use it with your partner, keep reading the blog for updates!

Jane xxx

If you’d like to review all the days of Locktober 2017 then this link will do it for you:


A final note of interest

Early in Locktober I talked about something I was working on to make all this easier for couples to access. I haven’t had time to finish that yet, but do keep a look out on the blog.

To give you a bit more insight it’s a set of customised lock up plans – with version for those who are entirely new to it, through to those for whom all this locktober stuff was maybe a bit tame! Plus lots of other bits of advice and ideas and scripts like the one above. 

So if you aren’t following the blog, make sure you do and you’ll be the first to hear more about it.

Locktober 2018 #30

If you’ve enjoyed this, join our little community of Chastity WAGS!

I hope you’ve been enjoying Locktober together, and that these posts have given you ideas you could use to explore and enjoy each other.

It’s quite hard work putting it all together so I tend to take a bit of a break in November from so much posting, however, this doesn’t mean there’s not more help available.

Last year we created an online community space for me, something we called the Chastity Wives and Girlfriends group. It uses a social media platform that’s a lot like Facebook groups called Slack, only it can be anonymous and there’s not the risk of you clicking the wrong button and your chastity question going out to all your friends and family!

It’s very relaxed, and strictly a ‘no drama’ group. We support each other with ideas of what might work if you’re exploring chastity and tease and denial, and we just encourage each other really. I’m really strict on the no drama thing though, anyone not being nice and helpful and polite will be quickly excluded. I don’t have time to be managing it more than that.

We haven’t done much with it these last few months because I’ve been busy but I thought I’d offer it again and see what interest there is.

Whether you’re just curious about trying chastity with your partner or been doing it for years, you’re very welcome to join us.

The only strict qualification is you have to be a woman who is in a relationship with a man, curious about or using chastity play as a couple.

Sadly when I last promoted this group we had a few guys pretend to be women to try and join it. The fact it’s a safe, women only environment is super important to me so I need you to prove you’re for real I’m afraid.

The simplest way to do this seems to be to include a picture (it doesn’t have to identify you, just clearly show you’re a woman) and have a written note as part of the picture with ‘Hello Jane’ or ‘We love keephimcaged’ or something like that on it (be creative!) so you can’t use someone else’s picture. If there’s any doubt about the picture I’m going to ask for another so please don’t waste your time and ours trying to fake them (yep had that too).

The last verification picture I got sent, the couple had included him, in just his cock cage too! While I usually ban people for sending me dick pics, this was kinda cute as a one off. So if you’d get a thrill sending a pic of you holding his caged cock or something (okay, so it’s probably him getting the thrill) then in this once instance it’s fine. But totally not necessary!

So if you’re interested, the way to apply to join the group is as follows:

Send an email to me at keephimcaged@gmail.com that includes the following:

  1. The verification picture
  2. A brief bio about you – nothing too personal, it just gives me an idea of who’s wanting to join – stuff like rough ages, relationship status, do you have kids, where you are in the world,  whatever you are happy to share
  3. A summary of your chastity/kinky experience so far – again only what you want to share
  4. If you have a tumblr blog you’d like me to know about, include the address of that for interest
  5. Most importantly, tell me why you’d like to join the group – it’s free, and I like the group small and friendly so it’s your job to persuade me to send you an invite!

I’m afraid it has to be by email as that’s the only way I can invite you to the ‘Slack’ group. However, your email and everything you tell me above is completely in confidence. No one else can see your email once you’ve joined, and you can pick whatever name you wish (although we have a policy on only using normal names and not weird usernames, but it can be anything, not your real one).

You can access the group online via https://chastitywags.slack.com or there’s a very good app you can add to your phone (it’s very similar to whatsapp etc). Just look up ‘Slack’ in whatever app store you use. It’s one of the fastest growing community platforms in the world (says Hubby).

If you have any questions about it that’s fine too, just email me at the same address.

Thanks to all those who have asked about the group this year, I hope this answers your question! Sorry for all the hoops you have to jump through but I hope you understand why making sure everyone’s genuine in the group is so important. I know it’s going to be a turn off having to send a picture, it would be to me, but if you can think of another way to do it then I’m happy to consider it.

Looking forward to hearing from you,


Locktober 2018 #29

So, we’re nearly there! Well done with whatever you’ve managed through this Locktober program. I hope you’ve enjoyed it and it’s helped push you to try new things.

Tonight your task is to drive him crazy! And you can use the day to build up to that. Send him notes to tease him, post sexy pictures, surprise him by not wearing underwear, whatever you think will get him the most excited.

If you have something suitable dress up a bit for tonight. It might be favourite nightwear, a certain outfit, something new!

Plan a bit of a ‘date night’ experience tonight. Some nice food, doing something nice together, and then early to bed…

Once there, tie him up. Keep him caged at first, tease him, lick him, get yourself off while he watches. Take what’s worked best from the last few weeks.

Then finally take him out, hopefully he’ll have genuinely begged for it!

Full Lockdown version

Sorry, 48 hours to go, he stays in and just gets teased through the cage…

Use everything at your disposal, hands, mouth, breasts, pussy, bottom. Put on some porn if you like that. Very simply see how many times and for how long you can edge him.

There’s an amazing article by one of my favourite blogs, healthysexymarriage, that talks about the idea of ‘breaking’ him through edging. While you’ll see we debate that actual term, if you can achieve what they describe, just wow!


Make it very clear if he cums, you may not even reward him for having got through Locktober. And obviously ruin it… but be careful not to take him over, we want it all stored up for the finale!

Locktober 2018 #28


So, pegging, we’ve finally got there! If you’re not familiar with the term, it is where the male partner is penetrated by the female partner, with the aid of a strap on.


I was never really interested in this, and it was one of the few things we hadn’t tried until we got the strap on about a year ago as part of our developing chastity play.

On the whole, my advice is to think about this just like you do if he’s using a strap-on on you. It’s a toy! It’s held in place with the strap on harness so it leaves your hands free. But it’s just a different way of using a toy.

But, okay it IS more than that. And this is part of the excitement of it.

Clearly there is a big element of power exchange in this, but for us it’s actually been a remarkably sensual experience when we occasionally do it.


But as far as the power exchange thing goes, there are two fascinating things I’ve found as we’ve explored this over the last year. It is INCREDIBLY empowering to be the one doing the fucking. It’s hard to describe. It’s just switching everything around when you become the penetrator rather than the one on the receiving end.

It’s almost like those switch movies where the guy goes into a woman’s body and vice versa, it honestly gives me a greater empathy and insight into what sex is like for my husband!

And conversely the same is true for him. In part it’s a similar experience to anything anal that causes him to be aroused or hopefully cum without his cock involved. It totally widens his impressions of what sex is and can be, and I think that’s a very good thing.


A warning that I’ve never seen anyone mention, this will be painful, for YOU. Yep, you will use muscles doing this that just never usually get that movement, well this is my experience anyway. So the next day I was all achey. Which is fascinating because it’s so natural for a guy.

This means first time you may not actually be able to do it for very long. That’s okay! If you’re both really getting into it then you can lie on your back and he can, for the first time ever, try being the cow..boy? Anyway, cowgirl position with him sitting on the dildo. And yep, that’ll make HIS muscles ache! lol

That isn’t all that aches, of course. For those of you who like, or have at least tried being on the receiving end of anal sex, there is an achey throbbing feeling of being fucked there. He’ll have that too, that’s normal.

As for some of the practicalities, here are some of the headlines, but I’ve added some great articles from other sites with all kinds of tips too.

  • Make it sensual, not dominating, at least at first. Treat this as kinky love making rather than some fantasy domination scene. His body is DESIGNED to be able to take pleasure and orgasm from stimulation of his prostate, so this can be an incredible experience.
  • Get him to be nice and clean beforehand – a shower and bottom wash is great but an enema a few hours before will get him even cleaner.
  • Use a condom on any toy that isn’t just for anal only (it’s SO weird putting a condom on yourself!!!)
  • Use lube, lube and more lube, you can never have enough. Lube the toy yes but literally push it against his bottom and squirt it up! Or else lots of it just gets wiped off as it goes in.
  • Foreplay to relax him is great. A lubed finger is perfect, or playing with butt plugs. Again use all of that as a chance to get lube in there.
  • Take your time. He’ll need to relax, get used to it, and relax again so no hurry, talk, touch, tease, play with his cock too.
  • Uncage his cock so you can wank him too. It’s so hot. One hand on his cock, one on a nipple and pegging his bottom, he’ll be in heaven.

Of course the big question is whether you can make him cum like this. It took us four or five different attempts before we got that right. Now we have it seems to be easier, and we’ll even do it with him caged so the stimulation is ALL from the peggng.

But cumming isn’t the entirety of this experience, simply doing it is the big thrill, and really worth trying.

Some other site for more advice:



And a great site ALL about it:


Some good Tumblr captions on it here: http://pegmecaptions.tumblr.com/

And also another with photos but non dommey stuff: http://sensualpegging.tumblr.com/


Pegging Positions

Despite nearly every picture on Tumblr being of pegging Doggy Style it’s one of the worst and least successful in my experience. Him lying down as in the picture further up this post is good for aiming and slowly working the tip in.

Spooning is my favourite as it’s all snuggly and I can whisper in his ear and play with his cock and nipples and the rest of his body as we do (reach your lower arm around under his neck).

We’ve tried him lying on top too, that kind of works but I think you need a longer toy for it to work well. But sitting up, cowboy style works well but wasn’t as sexy as me doing it to him.

But face to face is also a favourite. This was the position that first made him cum from it and OMG…looking into his eyes as I made HIM cum from fucking him – absolutely incredible.


You need a good quality strap on and a nice not too big dildo (most of the ones in the pictures are ridiculous…), plus some good lube

This is the one we use from Lovehoney, it’s wonderful, it works just as well on me as it does when he wears it. It has different fitting sizes so it can take the bigger dildo we love to use on me. But slim, curved, silicon one it comes with is PERFECT for pegging.


Find out more and read reviews on Lovehoney

And finally, this made me laugh…


Locktober 2018 #27

Plugged and ready to go

So as promised, butt plugs are coming into play today in order to get us more relaxed for the weekend.

So, if you’re able to, try getting him wearing it during the day, at least for a while. I find that it acts like a hornyness accelerator. It gets his balls full faster, turns him on more, it’s a brilliant accompaniment to caging.

And of course you can leave it in him for your playtime tonight too. I especially like him wearing it when he’s using the strap on me as it stimulates his prostate as he’s thrusting and he ends up dripping out of his cage, so, SO hot.

Just use today as an opportunity to discuss how it feels and what it does for him. If you have two plugs you can always wear one too, make it a shared experience!

They do take time to get used to, so if it gets uncomfy, just take it out. But give it time to settle, remember to use lots of lube to put it in.

If you’re squeamish about this, and I get that, I really do, please try and just push past it today, just so you can try it out. Particularly on guys the bottom is a source of all kinds of pleasure, and it’s really worth at least trying it out to see if you’re missing out. Taking it out in the shower is the easiest way to have no clean up issues at all, but just babywipes do great otherwise. Alternatively put a condom over it!

So yes, as suggested above, try some strap on sex with him plugged perhaps, a perfect opportunity to remind him soon that the tables will be turned! Or just have him go down on you!

And if all this isn’t for you, just pick something else from this month or have a night off!

Locktober 2018 #26

Sex, the way you want it

So we haven’t actually had much sex during this Locktober. And I guess that reflects how it sometimes goes with caging, we tend to have less penetrative sex, but much more actual sexual time together.

That’s a mixed blessing. I do miss him in me, but I don’t really miss the mess he used to leave, and the fact when we’re making love, he tends to get focused on what feels good for him.

What we’ve done more and more over this year is uncage him to have sex, but he doesn’t cum, which again is a real mind fuck, but refocuses him on enjoying it but keeping control. The rule has become that if he does go over, he has to pull out and ruin it on me, and then clean up. This is surprisingly hot, so it’s a bit of a win-win for me.

It also makes him cumming in me the pinnacle of pleasure, he keeps getting tastes of it but it makes him long for it so much more. And that feels right, I don’t want blowjobs or hand jobs to take it’s place as what he really aches to have.

I also use it as a tease, when edging him with my hand, for example, I’ll say ‘i would let you cum but I want to save it all for my pussy, and I don’t want to get messy today’. What a great excuse to not let him cum, leaving him thinking and wanting you even more!

So today you have a few options. If you’re enjoying restraining him you could do that again and uncage him, and do a mix of grinding on him and cowgirl sex to edge him.

If you would prefer him to do the work, then you can lie back and have him go down on you (let him make you cum this time, before he gets in you) and then have him fuck you till he edges, with the ‘ruin and lick’ provision in place if he goes too far.

Make it personal, get some eye contact, kiss, tell him how much you love all this. Tease him.

And then, if you’re feeling a little mean…at some point whisper, ‘I want something bigger’ and have him wear the strap on. If you leave him uncaged with the strap on, in missionary position his cockhead will rub over your bottom… it feels amazing and is a HUGE tease for him!

If you’re feeling even meaner, you can lock him up of course. Or never let him out in the first place, and just use the strap on. You really are in control now, enjoy it!

Some advance warning. This weekend, as promised, we’re going to try some sensual pegging (where he’s penetrated with you wearing the strap on).. So, firstly if you want to try that and don’t have one, you will need a strap on harness and dildo.Secondly, it’s well worth him getting used to some play there by using a butt plug, so it’s easier and you can both enjoy it more. So if you don’t have one, here’s our recommended ones – the Roll Play Plugs from Lovehoney. I’ll include some tips for him wearing them over the next few days.

Locktober 2018 #25

Getting to the bottom of it all

So today we’re going to address something that’s a bit taboo to many, and that’s anal play.

The wonderful irony of this is for quite a few of you even discussing anal sex might have been a no-go area. So it’s a lovely twist that only now his poor cock is locked up you might finally be able to broach the topic, and I can promise you if that’s the case then even the smallest hint you’re more open to it will drive him crazy. So even if that’s the only motive, it’s a fun one.

Let me make the case for exploring bumplay (is that a better term than anal, maybe?) and especially for why it works well with chastity play. And bear in mind, I’m primarily talking about just touching and playing on the outside, not even penetration as a focus

  1. Our bottoms are incredibly rich in nerve endings – second only to the clitoris or cock head in terms of our genital area. If you can relax about it then you’ll discover that simply being touched or caressed there feels lovely
  2. With his cock locked away it gives you another area you can tease and stimulate which will keep him horny and excited
  3. There is some kind of connection between the feelings brought on by chastity and the desire in him to stimulate and especially lick your bottom. I do not know why this is but we absolutely have found this to be true. Hubby’s gone from occasionally doing that to tease me to full out desperate to pleasure me there
  4. Along with a chastity cage, a butt plug is the other toy that you can wear and covertly enjoy together as a sexy shared secret. For years that was the main way we used them. We’d be going to some boring event and hubby would suggest I go plugged – and honestly it kept us entertained most of the evenings!
  5. A butt plug acts like a way to accelerate a guy’s horniness when caged, so if i’m in a hurry to get him desperate I’ll get him to wear both
  6. If you have held back on anal sex, finally exploring it together can be incredibly intimate – as long as you do it properly I promise, it’s genuinely pleasurable. I personally went from not even being prepared to talk about it to absolutely loving it quite early on in our marriage.
  7. It never stops feeling naughty, in the best possible way. Whispering ‘Fuck me in the ass’ is unfailingly the single best way to turn him on, every time. Of course now it’s often ‘I wish you were uncaged so you could…

If anal sex is not something you currently do can I first please encourage you to read this post I wrote about it together which has some practical tips and other thoughts on it. Whichever partner isn’t into it (yes it can sometimes be the guy) please just use the chance to talk about it and maybe review where you are with it. Even a small shift in your attitude will mean the world to your partner, I’m sure.



Source: fairchastity.tumblr.com

Okay, with that said, we’re going to do a few more simple Locktober tasks that involve it today.

We have a simple routine which is that if hubby’s interested in anything more than a simple handjob in bed then he will have showered. And as part of that showering he literally soaps and scrubs his bum so he’s squeaky clean. And I do the same. Also if you don’t wax then make sure you’ve recently had a go shaving the area in the shower or bath.

So make sure you’ve done that in preparation.

Have him do a warm up on you (and if you’re nervous about any bumplay but wanting to try it, then a drink to relax you will always help). And this time, as he licks you, just let him rub your bottom with a finger. Remember, no cumming during the warm up!

Your turn now, uncage him (or not if you’re not doing that!), restrain if you fancy it, and then start to stroke him with a lubed hand and involve your mouth if you fancy it.

Talk to him about anal, does it excite him, why, if you do it would he like more, tell him what you think about it, just, as with everything we’re trying, be positive!

Now, you’re going to keep stimulating his cock, and add a lubed finger tip rubbing his bottom too. Just watch how he reacts, try soft teasing strokes, or firmer ones, Try your nail run around it (feels AMAZING). Just have fun seeing how turned on it gets him. Playing with the outside of it is absolutely all you need to do if you’re new to this. I know it takes time to feel comfortable, and rubbing the outside gives them a huge amount of pleasure. Also some guys love the perineum, the bit between their balls and bottom to be stroked and rubbed – you can rub a bit harder there in my experience – it’s kind of like the root of their cock is there, I always like that thought.

If you want to go further and push a finger in (which at this point is more a psychological thrill than about the stimulation in my opinion – we’ll get to proper prostrate massage another time) then you can put a condom or even just a cut off rubber glove finger on, heck you could wear a whole rubber glove if you made it look sexy! But you really don’t need to for just playing outside.

If you’re really enjoying it then using lots of lube and again a condom if you want it, push your finger in his bottom, not deep, just the tip in and out and see how it feels for you both. 

If you prefer to then you can use a toy, a slim dildo etc – just make sure it has a wide base, you do NOT want it disappearing up! 

Just have fun with it! It’s a wonderful way to give him pleasure. We’re not going after the whole prostate thing today, just learning to be relaxed and include bumplay sometimes.

Your turn!

So, when you’ve got bored with that…lol, your turn. CAGE HIM BACK UP NOW or you are going to get fucked, trust me.

In the preparing for Locktober posts I suggested as well as a cage you might want to buy butt plugs. If you did, then the end of your edging him could be inserting that into him. At least suggest it and see what he thinks. It’s a good time as he’ll be all warmed up for it.

Anyway, plugged or not get him to go down on you while you browse tumblr or similar. This is a great place to start:


And another thought from me too:


So, you should have a vibe on hand too, because when you’ve got close, and got up enough confidence if this is new (don’t cum first, you want to be horny as hell to enjoy it the most) you need to turn over on your front, look at him over your shoulder and say ‘lick my ass (or equivalent) till I cum’.

Yes, you really need to say it. Why? Because it turns them on so SO much (I’m repeatedly told). And I can understand that, a nice cute wife or girlfriend telling him to do something so very naughty… hot!

So then, you have a few options. You can help, by rubbing or vibing yourself as he focuses his attention on your bottom. Or you can try him rubbing or vibing you with a hand and you just lie there and enjoy. Or it can actually be quite helpful to pull one cheek over a bit to give him easier access (or both hands for that really slutty porn star feel!). Try different things and see which works for you!

If you’ve got this far then, well done! You’re probably discovering, as we did, that this is one of the hottest and naughtiest things you can share. 

It’s seriously, off the charts.

If you fancy it, try more dirty talk – tell him to lick more, call it your rosebud or butthole or whatever you think is hot, tell him how good it feels, tell him how much you love his cock caged up, even tease him about fucking it, that you’d love it right now if he wasn’t caged, wouldn’t he love to fuck your tight ass, the irony that all the time he wanted to fuck it and now he just gets to lick it (I love that!) etc etc. 

Yes or apparently ‘eat that asshole like it’s a birthday cake…’ is hot! lol


Make sure you cum from rubbing or vibe while you’re being licked, and if you fancy some more, just keep going. Otherwise, well let’s just say you should be prepared for his aching cock pressed hard into you most of the night. Good thing it’s caged huh!

Oh, and if you plugged him, you should probably let him take it out. This time at least…


Well done, if that was your first foray into anal exploration I hope you enjoyed it. It’s of course very optional but I’m obviously very pro (having been very anti) and it works so well with chastity play I consider it a lovely and regular thing to include in our sex life. Plus, now you realise just how good (and naughty) it can feel perhaps you’ll understand all those captions that include it a bit better!

Locktober 2018 #24

More teasing and revisit some earlier days

So I’ve had various requests this week for more teasing of various kinds so I thought I’d indulge that tonight. Also I’ve pointed you to some of the best tease tasks we’ve written for this Locktober – worth trying if you haven’t or doing again!

So a bit of a mix and match but you’re getting good at this now! While I pack all this into 31 days the real use of these 31 days is to give you things to try all year around!

Teasing is just a huge bit of denial, for us anyway. I know some guys fantasise about being locked away for months with no release at all but for us the cage is very much a tool to enable and enhance tease and denial play together. The long lock up, well, it’s a bit boring in reality for us.

Saying that though, we’re doing the full lockdown option so that means hubby will be teased but the cage stays on. But if you want an in-between option, why not try tying him up…

If you don’t have restraints then just making him put his hands beneath him with the threat that if they come out he’s locked up, no warnings, is hot too! But him actually pulling on the restraints, yeah, even hotter in my mind!

So the other day I mentioned a great source of the videos we like most and I’ll flag it up again as I think they are super sexy and links like this don’t tend to last very long but this one seems to:


So one of my other favourite types of teasing is about cock size, you may have noticed? If this isn’t for you, no problem but, yeah, turns out we both love it

So here’s an image to get you started… even just admiring it will get him going.

There are lots of pictures and phrases to tease him with from the earlier Locktober post Day 8 Size Teasing so have a visit to that together!

Or work through all my posts tagged about it while you edge him or he licks you


Something that drives hubby crazy is if I tell him to go down on me while i look at this kind of thing… why don’t you try it.

Or if you have a big dildo then get it, and start using it, right next to him. More tips for that on from Day 15 – Tease and Tied

If you fancy mixing things up again you could use the Wheel of Chance we made for the Spinner task.

For a real change, why not get him to tease YOU, see how it feels to be kept on edge for as long as he can. There’s nothing better for it than his warm soft mouth…

Locktober 2018 #23

Exercising our fantasy muscles

I hope as you’ve gone through this Locktober process it’s helped you talk better about what you enjoy, try some new things and develop that intimacy which chastity, when done right, works so well to create.

One of the ongoing challenges with any kinky is to keep being creative, and that doesn’t come naturally to many of us. Our imaginations are like muscles, that need to be worked and worked hard to grow and improve.

One of the ways we find this easiest is by using images and then having to describe the scenario around it.

Porn pics are fine if you find the right ones, but I prefer to use drawn images, they’re somehow easier to build a story around

Some good sites for this include:






Even just try search tumblr for something like this:


Also of course, check out my archive of images and see what tickles your fancy:


Set him the task of posting a bunch of images to your secret shared tumblr and having him tell you about the fantasies, and you can make them up too. What’s more you can add your own images for him to have to tell you about.

Do this while you tease him, in or out of the cage depending how you’re playing these last few days, and then of course, as he pleasures you.

It’s a lot of fun! And remember, these are fantasies, it’s really okay to let your imagination go and explore what different things turn you on as a couple. It doesn’t mean you want it in real life, it’s about letting your imagination grow and get better at figuring out what turns your partner on!

Maybe suggest other tumblr sites to find good pictures for creating fantasies in the notes!

Locktober 2018 #22

Go on, indulge yourself!

So tonight is Pamper Night.

Not very complicated really, you get whatever you fancy!

As I suggested yesterday, get him to organise food in whatever way works for you, and then running you a bath is an excellent start.

This isn’t something we’d do but just in case you like the idea and have the privacy required, you being clothed, and him being naked over dinner and afterwards is something that apparently some guys would like the idea of. Not recommended if you’re eating out.

He could join you in the bath or you could send him off to prepare whatever you want afterwards. If you’re feeling mean then telling him to queue up a load of hot chastity captions to your shared blog would be fun.

Maybe the bath is followed by a film of your choise snuggled up together. At some point telling him to go down and lick you during the film sounds like an excellent idea to me. Do feel free to play with his caged cock and nipples as much as you want, but no letting him out, be strong!

After the film, I’m planning on getting a nice foot and back massage (you could do that before the bath too) where he WILL be naked. And then, I’ve got an erotic book I’m reading that I’m going to enjoy while he makes me cum with his hands and mouth.

And that’s it, I’m sure you can adapt to suit your own favourite things. But most importantly just enjoy yourself and note how much more he’s into doing all this when he’s been caged. Frustrating, sure… but there in my experience there is a new and wonderful satisfaction that he takes from pleasing you when you’re keeping him denied and caged.

Isn’t this the best?!!!