Locktober 2018 #30

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I hope you’ve been enjoying Locktober together, and that these posts have given you ideas you could use to explore and enjoy each other.

It’s quite hard work putting it all together so I tend to take a bit of a break in November from so much posting, however, this doesn’t mean there’s not more help available.

Last year we created an online community space for me, something we called the Chastity Wives and Girlfriends group. It uses a social media platform that’s a lot like Facebook groups called Slack, only it can be anonymous and there’s not the risk of you clicking the wrong button and your chastity question going out to all your friends and family!

It’s very relaxed, and strictly a ‘no drama’ group. We support each other with ideas of what might work if you’re exploring chastity and tease and denial, and we just encourage each other really. I’m really strict on the no drama thing though, anyone not being nice and helpful and polite will be quickly excluded. I don’t have time to be managing it more than that.

We haven’t done much with it these last few months because I’ve been busy but I thought I’d offer it again and see what interest there is.

Whether you’re just curious about trying chastity with your partner or been doing it for years, you’re very welcome to join us.

The only strict qualification is you have to be a woman who is in a relationship with a man, curious about or using chastity play as a couple.

Sadly when I last promoted this group we had a few guys pretend to be women to try and join it. The fact it’s a safe, women only environment is super important to me so I need you to prove you’re for real I’m afraid.

The simplest way to do this seems to be to include a picture (it doesn’t have to identify you, just clearly show you’re a woman) and have a written note as part of the picture with ‘Hello Jane’ or ‘We love keephimcaged’ or something like that on it (be creative!) so you can’t use someone else’s picture. If there’s any doubt about the picture I’m going to ask for another so please don’t waste your time and ours trying to fake them (yep had that too).

The last verification picture I got sent, the couple had included him, in just his cock cage too! While I usually ban people for sending me dick pics, this was kinda cute as a one off. So if you’d get a thrill sending a pic of you holding his caged cock or something (okay, so it’s probably him getting the thrill) then in this once instance it’s fine. But totally not necessary!

So if you’re interested, the way to apply to join the group is as follows:

Send an email to me at keephimcaged@gmail.com that includes the following:

  1. The verification picture
  2. A brief bio about you – nothing too personal, it just gives me an idea of who’s wanting to join – stuff like rough ages, relationship status, do you have kids, where you are in the world,  whatever you are happy to share
  3. A summary of your chastity/kinky experience so far – again only what you want to share
  4. If you have a tumblr blog you’d like me to know about, include the address of that for interest
  5. Most importantly, tell me why you’d like to join the group – it’s free, and I like the group small and friendly so it’s your job to persuade me to send you an invite!

I’m afraid it has to be by email as that’s the only way I can invite you to the ‘Slack’ group. However, your email and everything you tell me above is completely in confidence. No one else can see your email once you’ve joined, and you can pick whatever name you wish (although we have a policy on only using normal names and not weird usernames, but it can be anything, not your real one).

You can access the group online via https://chastitywags.slack.com or there’s a very good app you can add to your phone (it’s very similar to whatsapp etc). Just look up ‘Slack’ in whatever app store you use. It’s one of the fastest growing community platforms in the world (says Hubby).

If you have any questions about it that’s fine too, just email me at the same address.

Thanks to all those who have asked about the group this year, I hope this answers your question! Sorry for all the hoops you have to jump through but I hope you understand why making sure everyone’s genuine in the group is so important. I know it’s going to be a turn off having to send a picture, it would be to me, but if you can think of another way to do it then I’m happy to consider it.

Looking forward to hearing from you,

Jane

Thank you for making my life better.

Hi. Just want to say that we love your blog and love to see two people like yourselves enjoying their lives and their lifestyle. Your blog has also opened my girlfriend’s eyes and encouraged her to try a few things she was a little reluctant to try.

I should explain that, like most men I think, I have an abundance of fantasies running rampant around my tiny brain. So many in fact that my girlfriend used to be turned off at just the mention of them. Also like most men, I used to masturbate to these fantasies while my girlfriend was out. Needless to say this lead to some heated words between us and very nearly broke up our relationship.

So what changed. Well chastity changed and you helped change it.

You see male chastity has always been a big fantasy for me, along with many others which I won’t go into here at this time. But my girlfriend thought the idea was just too perverted for words. She was always very vanilla sex for her was more functional than fun. Anyway she did enjoy me going down on her, or should I say, she eventually got to enjoy me going down on her once she lost her inhibitions about it.

Now I am a little submissive and the idea of being locked up and controlled by my girlfriend one of my main fantasies. She, not so much. However, after much talking, about three years worth of talking in fact, she finally agreed to read some of the blogs and look over some of the web sites and tumbler site. And no there was no nagging on my part. Lots of little hints yes, but no nagging. I wanted to serve her not drive her away.

She never said, not in so many words but, at first she was disgusted by the whole thing. But, and god bless her for sticking with it, she kept on reading and it was your site she read the most.

Now everyone is different and not everything on your site was to her taste. There are still a lot of things on your site that she finds a turn off. I know this from her cries of “Oh yuck” or “God that’s horrible”. But your writing about your own, and your other half’s, experience with male chastity interested her enough to agree to give it a try.

So after looking over various sites we bought a cheep steel chastity device for me to see how things would go. Honestly the first device was not great. It was not stainless steel and began to rust, which caused irritation of the old fella. However, my girlfriend did begin to warm to the idea of having me locked and under control. She also loved knowing that while she was out I was not going to be trawling the net and jerking off. Which was something I didn’t like. But then reality is harder to deal with than fantasy.

Since then our roles seem to be somewhat reversed. It is now my girlfriend that seems to spend lots of time on the computer, reading your blog and getting more, and much more devious ideas, while I spend an ever increasing time in chastity servicing her with my tongue. She has also discovered the joys of edging me and ruining my orgasms. Something she finds hugely entertaining, especially when she has me tied to the bed and a pair of her soiled panties in my mouth.

They do say we should be careful what we wish for as we might get it. Well I wished for it, I got it, and now I love it. Our life together has never been better and my sweet girlfriend is currently on her computer, most likely reading your site and looking for more devious ideas of things she might do to me. So thank you for that, I think.

All the best and keep up the good work. You have helped us more than you could ever know.

D.R. 


Dear D.R.,

Thank you so much, hearing all this means so much to me as it’s really why I started the blog in the first place. Well done you for handling it so patiently and being realistic about it, but most of all well done her!

It sounds like you’re on a wonderful journey and I’m so pleased I could play a little part in helping.

The plan with now having the keephimcaged.com domain is that I’ll set up something that’s really catered to women like her and not have so many of the things that made her cringe. In reality a lot of this blog, at least for the last year while we’ve been busy, is posting stuff I know would turn hubby on, so it’s not been very focused.

Even with the best of new kinky adventures, the experience will have peaks and troughs, and I think it’s really important to just be aware of that, and above all keep the intimacy going – date nights and weekends away together are so important for just giving you time to talk and remember why you’re exploring all this, to make the other one happy and keep things fresh and exciting.

I’ve got to the point where my friends are just sick of hearing how good things are with hubby and I. My one friend who knows about why hinted recently to them all she knew and when it became clear it was something sexual (she didn’t say any more) the rest of them stopped being interested, which is SO SAD! (Although one of them has approached me individually since to try and find out, which is fun. She is SUPER vanilla but even though I’ve told her it’s very kinky (her guess in response to that was blowjobs, I’m not even kidding!!!!) she’s still intrigued!).

Anyway, thank you, it’s so good to know it’s helping, and if your wife would like to email me for advice or just to chat (I don’t have chat turned on on Tumblr to avoid dick pics) then she can email me at keephimcaged@gmail.com any time (true for any other curious wives btw, always love to hear from you).

Love

Jane xxx

Locktober 2017 – Day 30

If you’ve enjoyed this, join our little community of Chastity WAGS!

I hope you’ve been enjoying Locktober together, and that these posts have given you ideas you could use to explore and enjoy each other.

It’s quite hard work putting it all together so I tend to take a bit of a break in November from so much posting, however, this doesn’t mean there’s not more help available.

A few months back my hubby created an online community space for me, something we called the Chastity Wives and Girlfriends group. It uses a social media platform that’s a lot like Facebook groups called Slack, only it can be anonymous and there’s not the risk of you clicking the wrong button and your chastity question going out to all your friends and family!

It’s very relaxed, and strictly a ‘no drama’ group. We support each other with ideas of what might work if you’re exploring chastity and tease and denial, and we just encourage each other really. I’m really strict on the no drama thing though, anyone not being nice and helpful and polite will be quickly excluded. I don’t have time to be managing it more than that.

We’re still figuring out how best to use it, and it’s been neglected over the last month as I’ve focused on Locktober, but we’ve added some fun things like ‘bots’ that give us ideas if we ask what we should do to hubby or tell us how long to keep him in a cage etc. It’s a really fun little group.

Whether you’re just curious about trying chastity with your partner or been doing it for years, you’re very welcome to join us.

The only strict qualification is you have to be a woman who is in a relationship with a man, curious about or using chastity play as a couple.

Sadly when I last promoted this group we had a few guys pretend to be women to try and join it. The fact it’s a safe, women only environment is super important to me so I need you to prove you’re for real I’m afraid. 

The simplest way to do this seems to be to include a picture (it doesn’t have to identify you, just clearly show you’re a woman) and have a written note as part of the picture with ‘Hello Jane’ or ‘We love keephimcaged’ or something like that on it (be creative!) so you can’t use someone else’s picture. If there’s any doubt about the picture I’m going to ask for another so please don’t waste your time and ours trying to fake them (yep had that too).

The last verification picture I got sent, the couple had included him, in just his cock cage too! While I usually ban people for sending me dick pics, this was kinda cute as a one off. So if you’d get a thrill sending a pic of you holding his caged cock or something (okay, so it’s probably him getting the thrill) then in this once instance it’s fine. But totally not necessary!

So if you’re interested, the way to apply to join the group is as follows:

Send an email to me at keephimcaged@gmail.com that includes the following:

  1. The verification picture
  2. A brief bio about you – nothing too personal, it just gives me an idea of who’s wanting to join – stuff like rough ages, relationship status, do you have kids, where you are in the world,  whatever you are happy to share
  3. A summary of your chastity/kinky experience so far – again only what you want to share
  4. If you have a tumblr blog you’d like me to know about, include the address of that for interest
  5. Most importantly, tell me why you’d like to join the group – it’s free, and I like the group small and friendly so it’s your job to persuade me to send you an invite!

I’m afraid it has to be by email as that’s the only way I can invite you to the ‘Slack’ group. However, your email and everything you tell me above is completely in confidence. No one else can see your email once you’ve joined, and you can pick whatever name you wish (although we have a policy on only using normal names and not weird usernames, but it can be anything, not your real one).

You can access the group online via https://chastitywags.slack.com or there’s a very good app you can add to your phone (it’s very similar to whatsapp etc). Just look up ‘Slack’ in whatever app store you use. It’s one of the fastest growing community platforms in the world (says Hubby).

If you have any questions about it that’s fine too, just email me at the same address.

Thanks to all those who have asked about the group this month, I hope this answers your question! Sorry for all the hoops you have to jump through but I hope you understand why making sure everyone’s genuine in the group is so important. I know it’s going to be a turn off having to send a picture, it would be to me, but if you can think of another way to do it then I’m happy to consider it.

Looking forward to hearing from you,

Jane