Cage upgrade!

Well, not really an upgrade but finally our cheap chinese CB6000s cage broke (which was quite funny, for me, for hubby it involved pinched skin, he was not happy I was laughing so much!). 

The cage has fitted him so well and we’ve got so much use out of it that we decided to invest in the real thing. Lovehoney have an offer on at the moment where you get a cute little storage bag, extra plastic locks and cleaning stuff, all of which was great, so we went for it.

Here’s the cage with the special offer if you’re interested – yep, hubby is in the small one – you can find the big one on the link below I’m sure. But the recommendation everywhere seems to be, if you can go small then do! 

I certainly think it’s hotter for him to be squeezed tight in it and hardly be able to get hard at all. Yummy!

I hadn’t actually looked at their whole range of cages before, I quite fancy a metal one and I’ve had several messages recommending them. If anyone has any advice I’d love to hear! Post it as a note here, it’ll be interesting to find out.

Here’s the page with all their cages

The amazing thing with Lovehoney and why I recommend them so much is that they offer a year’s return on anything you buy from them, EVEN WHEN YOU’VE USED IT! Isn’t that amazing! Honestly we’ve only ever taken them up on it once but if you’re curious about caging then just go for it, and if you find it’s no good for you then you can just send it back and get all your money back. Genius!

In fact, I’ve just realised I can do that with a few of the metal cages!!!!

Hubby’s so fucked, mwahhahaha!

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Oh look I added a banner, clever me!

This is so true, I’ve never had so much oral sex until we started caging him up. At first felt guilty about it but he kept telling me that it was hot to be made to go down on me and just focus on my pleasure, not even knowing if he’ll get any. So I’ve taken him at his word and tell him I want him to lick me all the time now, it’s amazing!

He will tell you if he doesn’t want to, he’ll tell you if his tongue is tired, stop making excuses that don’t exist. He gets aroused by you being horny, wanting pleasure, and telling him you want it.

So try it, ‘I’m horny honey, come and lick me’ – he will love it!

And for some reason he tells me it’s really hot if I do something else sometimes, like read a book, or watch a movie (I already mentioned how me watching porn he can’t see while he does this drives him CRAZY! lol), so try those too!

Just be aware he’ll slowly be able to go longer and longer, if he’s new to it five or ten minutes is all he’ll be able to do before he needs to use fingers or a toy. Nowadays hubby goes down on me for half an hour or more and I cum a few times at least.

10 Chastity / Forced denial Benefits.

maleslaveswanted:

I’ve listed what i consider to be the 10 most positive things you can gain from Chastity or any form of long term or forced denial.

  1. It stops your man from wasting his time and libido masturbating. If you are in a relationship, all of his sexual energy should be directed at you. It should not be wasted on him touching himself and thinking about other women. As long as he can masturbate, he is psychologically cheating on you – and lying to you by default. Even if your man is only thinking about you when he has fun alone he is lowering his testosterone which should be built up so he can please you better and more frequently.                              
  2. Your sex life will improve. Because he’ll have to please you in order to get his release, he’ll become a more experimental and better lover. You will have more orgasms and more massages  per week than you’ve ever had before.                         
  3. Your relationship will become stronger. Male chastity encourages open and honest communication about each others needs. This is an incredible benefit for any couple, and forced denial can help any couple improve their natural bonding not to mention will make him more attentive, passionate and caring.                                                                               
  4. His orgasms will improve. As long as he can masturbate regularly, he is taking action that desensitizes his penis. Once he is on a more normal ejaculation schedule, his penis will become more sensitive and his orgasms will become stronger, usually he will last longer in bed too because cumming alone they do it in a few minutes and get used to that, after chastity I’ve seen men that could only go 5 minutes last a half hour after some training being locked up, this does not apply to all men but I’ve definitely seen mens duration improve from denial.                                                           
  5. You’ll never have to worry about him cheating on you. Face it – most men, no matter how much they love their girlfriends, can’t turn down an opportunity with another woman you’re likely never to find out about. Male chastity makes it impossible for him to act on these urges, this enforced that he remain faithful. This is perfect if you’re in a long distance relationship it also ensures he stays locked up thinking about you for days at a time eager to please.                                                               
  6. The romance will improve in your relationship. As long as he knows he can have cum any time he wants, there’s no reason for him to romance you. That’s why the romance stopped after awhile. By limiting his sexual access to you, you’ll train him to be the romantic lover he was when you were still dating.                                                                                           
  7. You’ll never have to put effort into pleasing him ( blowjobs, handjobs ). Of course, you can if you want to; but he’ll be quite happy with any sort of release / stimulation, you could give him a single lick and he would thank you for it ( well, he better 😉  its good to use these things against him, teasing is just as important as denial. they go hand in hand.                                        
  8. Your friends will compliment you on what a wonderful, attentive boyfriend you have. They will be jealous of your strong, committed relationship. No man is as ideal as one constantly denied.                        
  9. He’ll become much more helpful around the house. Knowing that the only way he can get the release his body craves so badly is by pleasing you, he’ll actually volunteer to do the dishes, clean the bathroom and make the bed every morning. Won’t that be nice?                                                       
  10. He’ll feel better about himself. Most men are ashamed that they masturbate so often (usually seven to 15 times a weeks!). But, they are slaves to their libido and can’t help themselves. It’s an addiction. Mostly it makes them feel like little boys who can’t control themselves. Once he no longer is able to give into the temptation to masturbate, he’ll feel proud of his self-control and behave more like a man who releases his sexuality into his girlfriend, instead of down the shower drain.

In summary, you will get a lot more pleasure in any way you want, and he will be stuck in a state of arousal that keeps him addicted to you more then he could have been before, he will do more chores, he will be more attentive, passionate, loving, last longer, be eager to please you, and will never cheat.

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If you agree with this list then please reblog so more couples are better informed and can seriously consider exploring chastity / forced denial

Just remember to keep it Safe, Sane and Consensual.

Yours truly

-Tatiana xoxo     http://maleslaveswanted.tumblr.com/ 

So this is more about longer term denial but I quite liked what it was saying. Although I’m not into fem domme much at all, apart from when we actually play together and the situation requires that, I’m quite intrigued to find out which of these are actually true.

The ruined orgasm challenge

So I saw this on http://beautifulsecrets42.tumblr.com/ and loved the idea but there were bits of it I didn’t like so I’ve changed some, hope you like my take on it. I’d keep him caged in between most of the tasks, just to add to the experience, but I guess that’s not necessary, just fun!

This is a challenge for couples, in which he accepts to have all his orgasms ruined until all “10 ruined challenges” are achieved. All the challenges must be completed before being allowed a real orgasm. The challenges can be done in the order of your choice but try to finish with the last one.

1 – Jerk off in front of her and let go of your cock as soon as you start cumming. You can cum on your own belly or on the floor…

2 – She must edge you with a blowjob. When you start to cum she will let your cock out of her mouth and just watch you squirt.

3 – You must fuck her and ruin your orgasm on her skin, and then lick it up

4 – You must be eating her out, in 69, or sideways 69 or her sitting on your face as she jerks you off, and she is to ruin you as she orgasms herself.

5 – You must have 3 ruined orgasms in one hour with her help. If you fail, the task won’t be completed…

6 – You will be edged five times during the day, starting in bed in the morning, and then only ruined last thing at night in the manner of her choosing.

7 – You must find a way to cum in her mouth with a ruined orgasm and then she will kiss you and you share the cum

8 – Have a ruined orgasm while fully clothed. She will “dry-hump” you over your clothes and stop all stimulation when you will start cumming…

9 – Have a ruined orgasm after being teased and denied for at least 2 hours. Try to shoot the cum into your mouth for fun…

10 – You will be tied while she will tease you. After ten edges she will make you cum and only stop rubbing as you ejaculate, but then immediately resume and use your cum as lube to keep masturbating you while you’re super sensitive. She must not stop unless you use a safeword. Have NO mercy! The objective is to make you orgasm again but she can stop after at least ten minutes of ‘torture’ if she doesn’t think you will. If this is the last one then the second orgasm can be a full one as your reward for finishing.

Thanks to “Teasingfun”

How to edge him

I’ve talked about ruining an orgasm but haven’t actually discussed the practicalities of what we do much more, which is edging. So that’s playing with him and masturbating him right to the edge of orgasm but NOT letting him cum.

Along with teasing this is the basic trick with caging him. Most days he’s wearing the cage I’ll remove it and edge him, once, if not twice. Maybe a quick one in the morning (often not even a real edge just playing with him) and then something intense in the evening (which might be one edge or lots in a row!)

We can go longer without letting him out, I’ve kept him locked up for three days without relesae, but he just getting annoyed by then and that’s no fun. 

Another good reason for this is to keep it clean. We’ll often use morning uncagings as an opportunity for him to shower for example. So I’ll take it off him, a quick play, then he’ll go and shower and take it with him to wash it. I don’t really care if he plays with his cock there as long as he doesn’t cum.

So yeah, I know, it’s all boring and practical but welcome to real life 😛

The real trick with edging is know how to get him as close as possible without him orgasming! If you play around with denial yourself you’ll know that feeling of edging – of being so close to orgasm but just holding back. There’s nothing like it… But it’s all well and good doing it to yourself, you know how close you are. This is the challenge when doing it to him.

Here are some tips:

  • Make him tell you how close he is! Kind of obvious, but let him tell you when to slow down, when to stop, keep talking to him, ask him how it feels, what is best. You’ll soon get the hang of it.
  • Feel for his body tensing – him holding his breath, arching his back or tensing are all signs he’s getting close, learn to read the signs and don’t worry if you go over, you’re learning!
  • Move from strong to soft strokes, and from the shaft to the tip – you kind of want to get him to the edge as fast as possible so you can spend more time at that point, so for me it’s lots of lubes and fast but not too tight strokes, and then as he gets closer, move to a looser grip and then focusing on the head and frenulem (the strip underneath the head at the top where they’re most sensitive).
  • Make it his HIS fault if he cums. So firstly, if he does cum, you ruin it, you stop rubbing as soon as he climaxes. OR if he’s tied down you turn it into post orgasm torture where you use his cum as lube to keep rubbing his cock and say things like, ‘You’re so naughty, I didn’t say you could cum!’

When you DO make him cum then make that part of the tease too. When you plan to make him cum it’s a great time to practice edging! Just use it as an opportunity to see just how crazy you can make him where you’re not worrying about finally taking him over.

Oh and you can add a mean element with this line, ‘If you can hold on for five minutes I won’t ruin you when you cum, okay baby?’

Mind fuck.

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Walk the line, dance on the line, but don’t fall over (or there’ll be a big mess!)

Interrogation

Okay so this is something to do early on that I found hilarious and really quite revealing, helpful I guess.

You have to have had him caged a day or two at least for this, with some intense teasing, and you also need to have perfected the art of edging him.

So he’ll be restrained, and you take his cage off, and just start the session as you might any tease or restrained wank.

But then as he get closer, you say ‘I think this might be a good time for you to answer some questions…’

Watch his face… it’s very funny.

My favourite questions have been

  • what do you really want to do to me right now? (umm I then let him out and he did it… not quite the plan but so hot!)
  • what are your favourite fantasies?
  • how often do you masturbate, where, how?
  • what porn do you watch?
  • how long do you fantasise about me keeping you locked up in this cage?
  • what do you really want me to do while you’re denied?
  • which of my friends would you fuck if you were were allowed?
  • what would you do to her?
  • what question do you most hope i don’t ask (lol – evil)

A serious health warning with this though, you may find out some things you don’t want to know. If you don’t want to know, don’t ask! Make sure you only ask things that the answers should excite you.