Cage upgrade!

Well, not really an upgrade but finally our cheap chinese CB6000s cage broke (which was quite funny, for me, for hubby it involved pinched skin, he was not happy I was laughing so much!). 

The cage has fitted him so well and we’ve got so much use out of it that we decided to invest in the real thing. Lovehoney have an offer on at the moment where you get a cute little storage bag, extra plastic locks and cleaning stuff, all of which was great, so we went for it.

Here’s the cage with the special offer if you’re interested – yep, hubby is in the small one – you can find the big one on the link below I’m sure. But the recommendation everywhere seems to be, if you can go small then do! 

I certainly think it’s hotter for him to be squeezed tight in it and hardly be able to get hard at all. Yummy!

I hadn’t actually looked at their whole range of cages before, I quite fancy a metal one and I’ve had several messages recommending them. If anyone has any advice I’d love to hear! Post it as a note here, it’ll be interesting to find out.

Here’s the page with all their cages

The amazing thing with Lovehoney and why I recommend them so much is that they offer a year’s return on anything you buy from them, EVEN WHEN YOU’VE USED IT! Isn’t that amazing! Honestly we’ve only ever taken them up on it once but if you’re curious about caging then just go for it, and if you find it’s no good for you then you can just send it back and get all your money back. Genius!

In fact, I’ve just realised I can do that with a few of the metal cages!!!!

Hubby’s so fucked, mwahhahaha!

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Oh look I added a banner, clever me!

What’s the most fun you’ve had lately with the cage? love the blog btw, thanks for sharign so much useful stuff!

Oh a good question! As I’ve said we have been trying a bit longer with him in the cage now, and when we got to a week we tied him up and I was seriously edging him, and said, ‘it’s been a week now, I think it’s time for you to cum at last’. He was so excited, and I got him so close, and then just as he was about to cum, stopped, and said, ‘Actually honey, I’ve changed my mind. I think you need another week, I’m enjoying this too much to stop now’.

And I simply stopped, kissed him, and waited for his cock to FINALLY go down, and caged him up. It was so hot, he loved and hated it. He’s due to cum tonight and now he doesn’t know if it’ll happen, and it’s really intensified the last few days, it’s been so hot!

Exciting to hear that you’re experimenting with longer periods of chastity now! So how many days has it been – and what’s the longest you’ve tried? Love the blog – you’re a great writer!

Aww thank you! I really do appreciate that. I write these really fast (I talk really fast too lol) so excuse any mistakes!

We started last Saturday, so that would make today day 11 I guess (maths is not my strong point 😛 ) And yes this is the longest ever for us. We use it quite often but in short bursts usually. So yeah it kind of happened by accident, he asked when he was going to be let out, and I said, ‘I don’t know, I quite like the idea of keeping you in for longer and not telling you’

‘How long?!’

‘I don’t know, I want to see how desperate you get’ I replied, grinning

‘God that’s so hot’ he replied, his cock straining at the cage.

And that was it! And here we are!

It’s interesting because it’s already become kind of normal, maybe we’ve been lucky but besides a bit of soreness for a couple of days the cheap cage we got fits him really well.

But, here’s the problem, I want his cock back! Yes, I get him out, and yes I suck and fuck him, but it’s weird, perhaps because he’s the dominant one of the two of us I guess it’s never going to feel like I want him in it for too long as at some level it definitely holds that back. So while I love having him in the cage, and I love the effects – much more sex in general, more cuddling and intimacy, the feeling of teasing him, the idea of laying claim to him, plus the fact he can’t watch porn etc without me without it hurting… oh and of course, the leap in oral sex I get, despite all that I still want him out of it.

So I think I’ll probably let him out soon but I might try what other things suggest, which is make him promise to let me look him up again when I want in the future to earn his release and orgasm, as there’s a few things I really want to try, just out of curiousity, stuff like:

  • Edging him way more, like four or five times a day, and then locking him up, and just seeing how long it takes him to go crazy for me
  • Locking him up and not letting him out at all, for maybe a week, again, just to see the effects, and make him totally focus on me
  • Making him cum in the cage
  • Playing some kind of game of chance (this was his idea) where we bet higher and higher numbers of days without cumming, and then a final toss of the coin decides which of us is denied

The thing is I do deny and tease him when he’s not caged but it doesn’t last long because he is the dominant one, I’m naturally submissive. So for us the cage is SO good (I’m only just figuring this out as I say it…) because the cage LEVELS the playing field. Hmm, that’s a really interesting thought. I’m going to have to write more about that. I think I just figured out why we like the cage!

Thanks for the question!!!! I think it prompted a new revelation!

This reminded me of a fun thing we do which is browse or shop for sexy outfits, nightwear and lingerie when he’s caged or being edged.

I love corsets so  Corset Story is a favourite but they don’t have models wearing the clothes so not so great as a tease but it means he has to imagine me in them 😛

Lovehoney is our favourite toy store but they also have a great lingerie and sexy costumes area. They aren’t super classy but good for kinky stuff

Lingerie.co.uk is better for classy lingerie

Bluebella is lovely too, with some beautiful things.

Yandy.com is totally ridiculous with outfits and tiny dresses and costumes – Oh I wish I still fitted most of them, but hot to look at and get ideas

We tried doing lots of edges recently but couldn’t really keep going after the first couple. Any suggestions?

Oh this is a very good question and yes, don’t worry, we’ve had exactly this and there’s quite a few things you can do about it.

  1. Firstly the problem may be you’re trying to get him too close each time, this takes a LONG time to learn how to do without making him go over the edge so don’t worry about getting him super close to the edge, just take it as far as you want to. If you get super close sometimes I find that his body kind of acts like he’s cum and he can’t get hard again. That happens much less nowadays but did when we started, so just have fun practicing!
  2. You’re probably not talking enough! Despite all we hear the biggest thing to get him hard is not about it feeling good,but it’s about his mind. So saying hot things to him is the key to getting him hard again after a few edges I found. Things I say include:
  • fantasies that I know are his favourites
  • making him tell me hot things (see my interrogation ideas)
  • talking about him fucking my arse usualy gets him excited, so for you anything that he likes to hear you talking about
  • being mean – so saying stuff like ‘if you can’t get it up I’ll just lock you back in your cage’, or ‘if you don’t get hard I’m going to lock you up wihout release for a whole week, ‘maybe your cock doesn’t want pleasure, but pain, shall I get the menthol rub?’, ‘your little cock isn’t working, so show me what you can do with your mouth’, all those often work wonders!

3. Next you might try doing that last idea, making him go down on you, or sitting on his face. Seriously, rather than worrying he’s not getting hard just enjoy him giving you some pleasure, he will love that, and may well get hard from it. Try a tight cock ring around him too as he does it (if you can’t be bothered to cage him up properly or want him accessible) as it’ll make him feel constricted.

4. Even more than just takign pleasure I have put the strap on on him at these points and ridden it, only him not in the cage. This once led to the sexiest result of him getting hard and actually pushing in my bum so I got my first double penetration! I really need to do that again now I think about it lol

5. You could try porn, I occasionally really enjoy wanking him while porn is playing, as I’ve said. I don’t know why, if we weren’t both really horny I wouldn’t but there’s something incredibly hot about giving him that treat knowing that nowadays he only watches it when I let him like that. I guess it feels like I’ve taken control of something he did a lot without me before. I don’t know.

However I’ve once or twice done an evil twist in this situation, which is offer to let him watch porn if we’ve edged a few times and he can’t do any morebut I want to, BUT, after I’ve got it set up before I press play I said, ‘If you get hard watching this when you wouldn’t with me, I’m going to torture your cock’. First time he did get hard so I mixed some lube and menthol rub and wanked him with that, which was very funny. The second time, impressively, he didn’t, and so I rewarded him by playing with him and so he did get hard and I let him watch it.

6.Make him wait – we have kids so dont’ have huge amounts of time during the day but I guess if you don’t you could just leave him tied up and go off and do stuff leavnign him wondering if you were coming back. That would be kinda hot.

7. Don’t worry about it – if he can only do two edges that’s fine, don’t feel disappointed, ulitmately guys weren’t built to keep being teased without release. He’ll learn over time to do do more. We still have days like that but mostly we can do 6 or 7 edges before I lock him up again. It’s not some competition though, just have fun!